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There is a lot more behind that though, Bread. I grew up in London and went to Oxford (pg).
What I can tell you is this - that fom a young age we have to deal with our lives being dominated in a way I don't see outside of London. There is no breathing space. We are run by tube and bus timetables. Everything is run on such a tighter schedule, its suffocating and it never lets up. We grow up with much more aggression in our faces on a daily basis and in an ebevironment that is constantly challenging: physically, intellectually, emotionally. I just don't see that in teh people who come to London as adults.
On top of that we know we will always have to work faster to stay one step ahead just in order to stay in the city we grew up in. Hence, I imagine, the Oxford thing.
The argument aboiut those who come to London is incredibly one sided. You got a childhood we didn't - its as simple as that. It needs to be challenged this way as it is part of that same narrative that says everyone in London is rich compared to the North.
I can tell you this - that s left London ao many of my friends left London and once they experienced the North never looked back. You don't carry teh weight of teh system in the North at the level you do in Londonand as a child that's a heavy weight that has become subsumed into your identity.
We don't get to do London for a few years, make mistakes, explore, leave a mess behind us, find ourselves, lose ourselves or anything like that. We don't get the grants and internships that I see people from outside getting (nor the supplement for benefit which I have seen).
There is without doubt, wealth in the city but most Londoners are not in that cateogory - they are ordinary working class on low, for London wages considering the costs of living here. . The wealth of the last 20 years bewilders me and I cannot help but think it is credit holding up an illusion.
I have left because I can no longer afford it and I am sick of the expectation being higher for me. It is based on a false premise and it needs to be thoroughly deconstructed.