@sbplanet I am speaking from experience. Lots of it.
I'm nearly mortgage free under 40, and that's because I have always read the market and bought and sold cleverly, rather then take advice from people who give their opinion but not smart financial advice.
In honesty, I have also been lucky to encounter buyers that have made decisions that I never would, and those have clearly been based on emotion rather than financial intelligence.
To add, I have never listened to a single word an estate agent has had to say. The amount of offers I've made that get rejected and then accepted a week later is laughable.
Yes, I have 'lost' houses I was extremely keen on at the time, but regretting those losses vs overpaying is never a regret in the long run. Never. Actually, I'm very glad for every single house that I loved at the time and envisaged myself in 'forever' in the lead up to this.
Yes houses are a long term purchase, but so is debt and negative equity. That is the only point posters are making.
Pay the value of the house. Don't over pay when the value has clearly dropped and EVERY single person in property or economics is saying the same thing.
Call it what you want but the reality is on a financial level, it's not a smart move.
Of course, if finances aren't an issue do what you want, but I would reserve advice for cash buyers only. Maybe its telling that they're sitting in the wings and waiting it out.
What does the OP have to lose by asking?
Lol, 'upsetting' her sellers?
She has no obligation to give them an extra £30,000 or whatever because they don't like what the market has dictated.
Madness.