Are we being stupid? Selling and moving after 6 months

[nespressowoo]

Hello all,

Really need some perspective. Moved out of our lovely new build house before Christmas, reason we sold was it was leasehold and by a busy road. Moved in with family until we got the keys to our current place.

Our current house is a 1930s 3 bedroom semi. It needed loads doing, stuff which we hadn't realised. In 6 months we have put on an orangery, new high-spec kitchen, knocked out walls, completely redecorated and carpeted it. Getting shutters soon too.

We just can't settle. One minute we're ok, next we're unhappy. Despite all the work we've done we still can't seem to be happy. We have had our house valued and we would make back what we have spent. It's by a good school, in a nice area. Fairly quite. Garden is small. Still needs more doing but wouldn't get that back in house value / equity.

I just don't feel we fit in, it's very overlooked. It's a semi so we hear a lot of noise from next door. I don't know if we'd have enough room when we have no2. It doesn't feel like 'home', I know 6 months is a relatively short period of time.

We have seen another new build back near where we used to live, about 3 miles so nowhere near a busy road. It's surrounded by green fields, detached, bigger garden. Developer is offering lots of incentives. It's peaceful. It's nearer my family. It has a good school. We love new builds so I'm not worried about that side of things.

Would we be mad to move again?

Sorry for the long post... any help much appreciated.

Just goes to show, when you know you know. So glad it's all worked out for you op.

That's a nice update, good luck in your new home

After reading thread was just about to say life is too short so if you can manage it move to where you will be happy and no need to justify your decision. Realised after update you have already done so.
I moved in with dh 15 years ago. Until then he had only lived with parents and one other house. We are on to 4th move now! I have found our needs have changed over time. We became foster carers and adopted a lo with additional needs so we are moving from a large Victorian semi to a smaller newer property for the garden space. Fingers crossed it's our last move.

Glad it all worked out for you Nespresso.

We moved in September and I am really struggling to settle. I would move tomorrow if I could, but realistically it's going to be at least a year before we could put it on the market. We need to save up stamp duty etc again. I am really miserable at the moment worrying about this, and then worry even more wondering how long it will take to sell when we are finally in a position to do so. I feel so stupid that I feel this way when so many people will never own a house, but I have never felt so unhappy in my life and it's hard to focus on anything else. As others have said, life is to short to be so miserable.

Your story gives me hope all will work out for us. I am the only one in he family that wants to move, but my DH is very supportive and just wants me to be happy again.

What a nice update - glad it has worked out. I lived in my previous house 5 years and it was perfectly fine, great for getting to work, the house I brought my babies home to etc, but looking back I never quite felt I was in the right place. When we moved to where we live now, everything came together.

Thank you everyone. You do know deep down when it's not right. I loved the house we were in last year, I had my son there, it felt like home, but I couldn't live with the traffic noise. The house we just moved from we 'settled' for when really we should've rented.

Good luck @LK0813 - it is a horrible feeling. It was all we talked about for months and months before we finally did something about it. We were very lucky in that the housing developer paid our stamp duty, otherwise we wouldn't have been able to move. We have lost some money and have very little savings left but the peace of mind we now have is priceless. I hope it works out for you.

I come home happy, I can hear the birds. We haven't got curtains or blinds yet but I love looking at the stars when I'm in bed. Our families are so happy for us too. Still paying the kitchen off in the last house but we would be paying for an awful lot more had we stayed.

If you know deep down you're not happy, get out of there. Surely if this house you have your eye on is everything you want, and you're closer to family, you're making the right decision?

We're moving from our current rented house on a new build estate, 30 miles away to a 3 bed semi, I'm somewhat heart broken about leaving this house as the cul-de-sac we currently live in is quiet and I'm not far from family, however, the new house is huge and has a massive garden! But we've already decided we wont be there any longer than about 3 years. Expecting our first in March too so got it all going on at the moment 🙈
Do what feels right in your heart! X

I feel the same as you did op.
I moved too far from my family. The house is good and garden not overlooked but its a semi and my neighbour is noisy. The actual house, driveway, garage and garden, I love and wish I could pick it up and move it.

We are lucky to live here and moving would mean needing a family loan or personal loan as the price difference is around 30 to 35k but most minimum mortgages are 40k. I bought this house to do up and make money and I will have done so but not enough.

In reality I know I sold my old house too quick and too cheap but at the time, I was desperate to move. I will not make the same mistake here but I decided within a month of moving in that I was going to move. I was hoping for in 18 months time but I know it will be more like 2.5 years, so summer 2021.

Well done op and happy that your move has worked out well.

You didn't read the update, did you stilts? OP moved!

@Singlenotsingle
No I didn't, but thanks for prompting me! 🤪

Congrats OP!