I think I hate our home

[isaeton]

Hello,
I am looking for some help / advice / reassurance.

My other half and I have just bought our first family home. We moved in 4 months ago. We live in an area where property prices are sky-rocketing, we needed to get on the 'mortgage ladder' (as we kept being told!) we had a number of sales fall through/ got outbid on and felt very very pressured to buy.

We now have our family home and I hate it. I truly hate it, and am terrified that we have drastically overpaid for an appalling quality house.

It's a new build and everything fitted (kitchen, doors, bathroom) are the lowest possible quality.

We had a full survey and were advised on bits of work that needed doing. But it's only since moving we've discovered quite how awful everything is. It is a completely charmless house. It's dark. It's overlooked and the plot is tiny. (things I really can't change!)

In terms of pros - good schools, it's a nice neighbourhood, close to the park and its detached.

I can't quite work out if my utter disdain and anxiety is normal mortgage jitters. Or whether I need an escape plan.

Thank you.

Just to say a huge thank you to everyone who has commented on this. I really appreciate it. I was concerned that I was going a bit mad. Grown up life is just a bit overwhelming and shit at times. And also when you live in a nice area, you will be absolutely stiffed on house prices. I cannot imagine how our kids will ever afford to buy anything. Que cera cera. Thank you ladies.

Are you feeling any better? A bit more empowered hopefully.

You've bought more security for your kids, the freedom to choose their own wall colours etc. I don't think you'll have overpaid because you buy that and the plot, location, school catchment, layout and number of bedrooms. A better quality kitchen wouldn't really change the asking price.

Embrace the things you do like about your house. I can't even conceive of being able to afford a detached house as FTBs. I don't think we even saw any semis first time round, it was terraced or nothing. And detachedness matters hugely to DH.

I hated our new build at first too. It took me two years to get around to hanging any art work on the walls. It was a magnolia hell hole.
Didn't help that I was pregnant, cried a lot and was so tired I couldn't get the strength to do anything much to it.
Once I started painting rooms different colours and making new curtains instead of cheapy emergency window covering it got better. Dh changed the bare dirt into a lovely garden, made a covered raised deck off the living room so we could sit and admire the lovely views that I had been ignorning. In the end we were there 20 years and I now miss that house.

I dont particularly like a lot of things about our current house. Everything is dated, and peach or flowery, and gradually breaking faster than we can fix things. However, it is the best we could afford, and probably will ever be able to afford if house prices continue to go the way they are - we got a bit of a bargain because of the old stamp duty threshold. Its in a good school catchment, has a park at the end of the road, and we now have some friends in the area. I am sure when the DCs are a lot bigger, I will make it into a lovely family home. For now, it is a bit like camping in an ugly box. It is however, warm, dry, and ours. Mostly.