Here's the table www.designshackbespoke.co.uk/portfolio-item/mantlet-table/. We're opting for the driftwood finish, it's a standard 2 metres but will have bespoke extension ends to make it 3 metres when needed. The total including a protective coat of oil and delivery is only £630, which seems like a bargain when you compare it to the tables I was looking at in Heals (which would get ruined!). They also sell via Etsy and I've been really encouraged by their glowing reviews: www.etsy.com/uk/shop/DesignShack1980.
I'll probably get some oil cloth from John Lewis to cover it for arts and crafts. It's nice and rustic but I don't want any paint staining it! Like you say Goingslowly, we can't be too precious. A friend of mine is trying for children and has just bought a £40k flawless Siematic kitchen. . Your table is beautiful by the way!
I think five pendants will be fine for us as it's a big table and a big room (around 8.5 metres in length and 5 metres in width) and the eaves are quite high. I probably typed a bit too hastily as it's only really one pendant shade with four hanging lights fittings (a bit like the picture, but in an antique copper finish). Definitely agree those pendants won't date Goingslowly. I think my light fittings will but we've had the Tom Dixon light since 2009 and I still love it (it's been in a box for the last three years!).
We do have quite a lot of units. We've ordered six tall units (including one Integrated fridge unit and two integrated oven units), eight base units and seven wall units. We've also got a lot of drawers and 800mm units above and below. You can have a non-IKEA dishwasher but it's the one non-IKEA appliance that is a real problem because any door doesn't quite work for other dishwashers and the hinge IKEA provide isn't a great solution. I've been told that by two members of IKEA staff (who definitely weren't doing the hard sell on IKEA appliances) and a few Mumsnet threads on here confirm this.
Splashback will be marble tiles from Mandarin Stone (something like this but they have a huge selection: www.mandarinstone.com/product/calacatta-honed-marble/. We might need to make another trip down to their Weybridge showroom to stare at them all again. Re appliances, we're spending just over £6k. Siemens single oven, combi microwave/oven and warming drawer (can't afford the Miele ones I wanted which were around £5k alone and the Neff combi oven/microwave gets patchy reviews). Fridge freezer will be Samsung, undercounter freezer will be AEG (both integrated so I only really care about the interior/frost free function), 800mm induction hob will be Neff, integrated extractor fan will be a white glass Elica model and I have a two temperature zone Haier wine fridge which I love! The running theme is as integrated as possible - I'm not really a fan of range cookers and the big American fridge freezers but each to their own. Sink will be the Shaw's Shaker that I mentioned and taps will come from Crosswater which I've used many times and all their products are fabulous quality.
What a huge post - sorry!