We've accepted their offer

[momma1701]

But now he needs speak to his wife about it

Your EA works for you. If you don't like how they are marketing it tell them. If they get pissy that's their problem not yours. Ask them to contact the viewers who they cancelled previously and see if they still want to view.

Have the EA seen a mortgage in principal? I know they are not a guarantee but our EA asked for it along with proof of deposit- and checked back through the chain to make sure everything was proceedable before she advised us to accept the offer. We had to provide a copy of our MIP as well to have our offer accepted and I know our sellers EA also checked out the chain.
I'd put some pressure on your agents if I were you - maybe set a deadline for survey access etc and make sure you've instructed a solicitor and got all the paperwork to them so they can draft the contract and put pressure on.

Also the EA can be as pissy as they like - the more you bother them the more likely they are to pull their fingers out even if it's just to get rid of you

I have said all this to them already and they haven't changed anything, asked them to ring up the other viewers and they can't get hold of them, maybe because they thought we was fucking them about having sold for a day then back on the market
I've told them we aren't happy but they dont care as they know we are stuck with them! I'm tempted to just ignore them about viewings till their term runs out and start over with the new agents but that's 6 weeks away!
I'm currently composing a strongly worded email to them I'll see how that goes!
When I originally emailed and then rang about leaving them one girl was very 'yeah that's fine we understand' 20 mins later their manager rang to tell me this isn't possible, so they don't even know their own bluddie contract agreements

They have said they've seen their MIP and I wanted to know their deposit to mortgage as advised by othe EA because of the whole borrowing money, as much as they can afford etc. And they said I can't it's confidential

I think I'd be inclined to say that regardless of whether the buyer or your EA consider proof of deposit to be confidential you would like either you or the EA to see it and verify it before you consider the offer proceedable- this is pretty standard I think. Be very clear that until this happens the property is back on the market and the offer is not accepted. Maybe get a friend to call and ask to view to check what they are telling people?

I would also make a bit of a fuss about the EA telling you that you could cancel with 30 days notice when you signed - yes strictly you should have picked it up in the contract and legally it would tricky to try and rely on it but I would definitely complain and say that you feel misled - they may decide to honour it?

It's my EA who said I can't see it when I've asked.
I feel I'm just constantly being lied to off everyone!
When we accepted the offer we said we want it to be marketed at still for sale definitely don't put STC on it and she was pissy about that and I wonder if that's why he needs to talk to his wife!? Maybe
I mean if you was buying a house and they still wanted it marketing as for sale would you be put off? Would it make you think they was just waiting for a better offer or for someone to gazzump you, making you feel like your wasting your time from the start

I'm just trying to rationalise their comments/thoughts because I just don't get it

I think if you've accepted an offer then usually it is taken off the market so I can slightly see why the EA was pissy. If I was buying and they didn't take it off the market without a good reason I would probably withdraw my offer.

If the EA has seen MIP and proof of deposit and is happy the buyer can buy then you should be able to rely on that because they are working for you - I don't think you need to see it yourself - it might be your buyer has shown it to your agent but asked them not to forward it to you because it has bank details on? I didn't see our buyers proof of deposit but our agent did. Maybe email your agent ask them to confirm buyer is committed and their financials check out and then ask them to keep on top of it - i.e. calling to check they've instructed solicitors, calling to check the mortgage is in process and giving you regular updates.

I wouldn't dream of accepting an offer and not marketing it as STC if they hadn't fucked us about like they have but this is just us covering our backs because we've had it fall through before and his commitment just doesn't seem to be there

We've just had a phone call back 'he's accepted your offer but he wants you to leave curtains curtain poles light fixtures etc'
I'm pretty sure ours wasn't an offer WE was accepting HIS offer

Maybe you could say your not prepared to leave anything not I'm your details, thus this offer isn't procedable and to need to go back on the market ?

I've just said that back to her and she's replied with 'I don't think he'll accept that'
I'm dumbfounded! Who the hell are the EAs working for, us or him?
When we look for houses we're thinking building itself anything else they want to leave is a bonus but not what we expect to get! Definitely not if it isn't listed on specifics

That's fine then - if he doesn't accept it then presumably your house goes back on the market. I see your point OP and I can understand why you're not convinced by the buyer but playing devils advocate I expect the agents position is that this is a buyer who'll pay a price you are willing to accept and has provided proof of financials.

Do you want to keep the curtain rails and light fittings - are they worth much and is it worth losing a sale over? Alternatively if he is as you describe this could be the start of a long process when he attempts to get money off for this and that so you might be better putting a marker down now that you will not be negotiating further.

It's a horrible process and your agents do seem a bit crap but they have also have an interest in pushing this through. Just make sure they keep up the pressure on the buyer so that you know asap if there is a problem.

Put the house back on the market. This bloke is more trouble than he's worth.

He can have all things like that I'm not really arsed but I specifically said I wouldn't be leaving one item ( it has sentimental value to us) on his first viewing and mentioned it again on second and the other day to the EA and low and behold that's what he wants, what a surprise!
It isn't worth anything to anyone but us he just likes playing stupid fucking games and I'm sick to death of him!
Like I said we haven't had a sniff of viewing or anything since we started all this negotiating with him, when before this we was getting phone calls daily for viewings/second viewings it's like the EAs have just focused on us selling to him

It hasn't even been took off yet! 😩 we haven't even got that far haha everything just keeps coming back about him changing his mind

I'm trying to understand what's happening here. You've been on the market 2 weeks and have now accepted 2 offers. One of which pulled out over parking (odd). This couple have made 2 offers on your property that you declined. They've now made a 3rd offer £500 over their previous offer, which you accepted but said you wanted to continue marketing the property (unusual). He then says he needs to speak to his wife (understable as thinks he'll be gazumped). The EA has said that they can proceed, have funds etc and that they accept your terms to leave it on the market? They are now wanting bits of furnishings? Because they want to move right in maybe?
Ok, if the above is correct... I can see your point of view but also theirs. How different is their offer percentage wise to your asking price? Is their offer acceptable to you? If it is then accept it and take it off the market. This is what's usual practice. If it isn't acceptable, then decline it and stay on the market - it's only been on 2 weeks and you've had offers x2 that seem to have been thereabouts. I'm sure the EA will find another buyer for you but it may still be the same value as previously or a long chain or with complications. Then again it could be a breeze! I wouldn't get tied up in the furnishings but can you remove now the one thing that's an absolute no no? I'm dying to know what it is.

The buyer sounds like a total pain in the arse!

Although if you're desperate to sell & haven't had much other interest, you may just have to grit your teeth and get on with negotiations.

As a FTB, and made offers on properties recently- have forwarded our mortgage AIP to the EA each time but never been asked to prove our deposit.

To be honest, if they did ask we would refuse to disclose to them. Why would we want the EA and vendor to know our maximum?

So far a mortgage AIP has been enough- and the fact we applied for a mortgage/survey & instructed solicitors within 24 hours of our offer being accepted. It was the vendors who let us down on two occasions!

Are you north west momma, if so I can recommend my solicitor.
Your EA sound as bad as mine, the industry needs tighter regulation!

I am north west yeah, so if you could that would be fab!

We have had lots of interest but since they've started we haven't had any so we are stuck now for what to do, we've decided tomorrow we're giving them the ultimatum of accept, put up and shut up or we are rejecting their offer and we'll sit tight till EA term finishes then move to the other EA

I honestly would have sacked him off yesterday. What a pisstaker. Especially wanting the one thing you said you wouldn't leave. And I wouldn't be impressed with the demands for curtain poles etc even if you were going to leave them. He doesn't get to demand and make conditions. He wants something that you have, not the other way around.

Well it's supposed to be negotiated not demanded isn't it!
He is a right royal bellend on all accounts and the only reason I've put up with it this long is the house that we want but at this rate we'll stay put and extend instead!

I turned down one annoying buyer and accepted a lower offer from someone else

Because you just get that feeling!!

I totally agree! Unfortunately no other buyers at the moment
We're revisiting the marketing argument tomorrow with the EA and asking for rightmove stats and what are they actually doing to sell it, we never get property bulletins off them like we do other EA's even though they know the house area we originally wanted and we seen on rightmove one had come up with them!!!

Ok so today he has 'things to sort out in his business so can't proceed'
It's a good job we was firing the bastard off anyway!
What kind of arsehole does this!?