gazumped (part 2)

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Sorry about the deleted thread, was spooked by the threat of the DM! Will endeavour to keep things vague incase the V's EA's ex-oh or Mr Darcy suddenly decide to become mn'ers I think they should add a burn after reading feature

Who the fuck is Mr D? How is this thread any less identifying than the last one?

"I'm not really the damsel in distress kind"

I disagree. The time you've spent writing up this account on Mumsnet could have been spent actually being pro-active and doing something about the agents. But you prefer your handsome boss (the one who calls you kiddo right?) to take care of that on your behalf? That seems like the very definition of damsel in distress behaviour to me.

So the EA has asked you not to report, but still isn't admitting any wrongdoing?

It doesn't sound like they are taking responsibility, so I'd be tempted to speak to them and if no action then report.

Them asking you not to report would make me more likely to! It would also make me think it's not the first time dodgy stuff has gone on, and that they've previously been turning a blind eye.

I'm glad that you're pressing ahead as you like the house but don't understand why the EA told the sellers you had reduced your offer. It makes no sense unless there was another offer for the same amount from a buyer he preferred but you've established that there was no other buyer .

Would like to offer any advice I can having just moved house, but can somebody fill in the back story here please?

OP, I am baffled at why you wouldn't want to report the EA. You seem to worry about someone losing their job, but quite frankly with their attitude they should. They knowingly treated you without any respect whatsoever and blatantly and knowingly ignored data protection laws. They gave your bank statements to the vendors FFS. They then tried to convince you to not report them. And you want to give them a change to show remorse?

Well, they will. They will feign remorse with the sole purpose of making money out of this transaction, as well as the opportunity to continue to sell and scam people.

They have shown their true colours, and this process of buying would be more stressful if you stay with these crooks. They are crooks.

THEY GAVE YOUR STATEMENTS TO A VENDOR!

Your boss is right. I strongly suggest you take his advice.

You are all completely right, I should just deal with it head on. Thanks again for all the advice.

cotswoldstrife Why on earth should the bank be reported to the ombudsman? The EA presumably gave paper copies of the statements to the vendors (unbelievably), so how is that the bank's fault?

Absolutely name and shame, if only to the Ombudsman.

Glad you are back - sorry to hear about the break up. I think that EA needs reporting at the very least.

Reporting the EA to the bank, not the bank to the ombudsman!

The bank should be told that her financial details have been circulated. I know that the OP has already taken steps to secure her details but really I'd be telling the bank about the EA as well. The whole showing-the-bank-statement is such a breach of confidentiality.

I would be even more annoyed having received a message from the EA asking me not to report them. How dare they?!? Does that mean they condone what the guy did to you and the vendors? Are they going to sweep it under the carpet?
I, for one, would not want someone like that working for my company and risking the companies reputation.
Dont feel bad about reporting them OP. Think about this, he could have been doing this for a long time and made £1000's in commission by getting people to up their offer. He is in a position of trust and should not abuse that trust by lying and lining his own con artist pockets

100% report to the ombudsmam. If they haven't done anything wrong... they have nothing to fear - right?

You had good advice and protection, the next person they pull this shit with might not have.

Report the EA.
Think, he has probably done this to people before you. He will likely do this to people after. For all you know this behaviour is inherent in the office and they are all doing it.
Send it to the ombudsman. He shared tour confidential data!!!

Good luck op I hope u got the EA sorted. I know it can be hard 2 deal with these things but I thin u will feel better if u face it yourself and don't worry about the jobs as they made their own bed.

Defo report EA. Asking you not to report but not giving you any details of how they're dealing with this person says to me that they'll sweep it under the carpet....and carry on doing the exact same thing.

I think you've had a lucky escape with your exDP. He sounds immature and whiny and unable to handle an independent woman.

Hope everything goes ok from here on in. Do keep us updated. I, for one, am a saddo who enjoys living vicariously through t'interweb strangers lives.

That's a pretty good point apocolypse I was trying to keep things from escalating, but they really haven't suggested any fix for the situation or reassured me if isn't the sort of thing that will happen again. I have a hectic week at work, but will try and get a letter of complaint fired off to the company to get the ball rolling. Would suggest the sellers did the same, but obviously in this situation the less said to them the better

I bet you're not the first one the EA's done this too, there will be others he's done it too who weren't as savvy as you so go ahead and report them. Bugger they're reputation, they give EAs a bad name.

The ExOH sounds very immature and petulant, you are so much better off without him 💐

*they're? Their......

Yes, don't talk to the sellers. I won't put it past them to pull a massive stunt at exchange. They sounded like utter twats t h so good luck dealing with them.

Your ex is an idiot. So basically he doesn't want to buy a house so you can't either. Whatever. You are better off without. If anyone told me not to do something, I'd do my very best to make sure I did it. But I'm petulant like that.

Definitely report the EA. That behaviour is shocking and they will do it again as they would have got away with it. You can't act like that in a job and think you can get away with it. If he gets the sack, it will teach him a very valuable lesson.

It's not worth doing something unless someone, somewhere, would much rather you weren't doing it

^Terry Pratchett quote.

Smart man