Buyer's support thread #5

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Sorry for breaking the last one

and for all....

We've exchanged.

WE'VE EXCHANGED!!!!!!!!

It was a total fucking nightmare right up until the last minute and DH and I had to take the day off work and drive around the county collecting bits of paper from various solicitors and delivering them in person to other solicitors because almost everyone involved is a useless shitbag but WE!!! HAVE!!! EXCHANGED!!!

Get the keys on the fifteenth. Thanks everyone here for your support during this absolute fucking nightmare Especially Spickle!!

Yay, go Hey and hubby! Really pleased for you, you must be in need of a few restorative glasses
Hope it's plain sailing from now

Yay!!! Heyhey that's fabulous news - now you can have a wonderful weekend safe in the knowledge that it will all be over soon!!! So pleased for you

Heyhey that is the greatest news!! Wooooo for you!!

Oh yaaaaaaay Heyhey! Fantastic news. It feels so much less stressful this side of exchange!

Congratulations! Only just joined this thread but as someone who has been "on the verge of exchange" allegedly for three weeks I can only imagine how that must feel to have actually done it!!

Thaaaaaaank you vipers

Honestly yesterday...right up until the last minute I thought it would fall apart. Suddenly the asshat vendor started asking for another month until completion and we said we were pulling out and the estate agent lost it and told the vendor they would not take his property on again if he sabotaged this process any more than he already has and caused it to fall through but we got there in the end, mostly thanks to our terrifying but fantastic solicitor.

We've got our insurance sorted and the Internet man booked to arrive the day after we complete!

to everyone still waiting. I feel I can contribute to the thread again now instead of just wailing in the corner. Full disclosure I do have MH problems do probably haven't always reacted in the most rational way But the stress from the process has made me quite poorly. Never again!

Congratulations Heyhey!!

I'm only just at the start of the process (had my offer accepted a few days ago) and already I'm feeling stressed. I'm a bit of a control freak so I'm uncomfortable with having to leave everything to other people to sort out. It's a long time since I've been through all of this.
I've filled in all the forms for my solicitor and am seeing the bank to organize my mortgage (shouldn't be any problem as it is much less than the agreement in principle amount) and survey on Monday. Other than that all I can do is wait?!
Would it be ok for me to contact the estate agents on Monday and ask them to update the vendors with what I have been doing and ask nicely if they could get their solicitors to move things along as quick as possible? My buyers want to complete by 23rd Sept, so it feels like we need to keep things moving quickly (or is that plenty of time?). There's no onward chain.

Faffalotty, I would definitely be proactive with your vendors EA , it shows your serious and committed to your purchase. Our chain of 5 managed to exchange within 7 weeks of offers agreed which only really happened because our buyers and myself pushed the chain along and dealt with paperwork as soon as we received it. Our purchase has been rather more convoluted though! We complete this Tuesday and are moving into rented for 3 months whilst our new home is completed.
I understand the control freakery ( is that a word?) as I'm just the same.
Good luck and least you can come here and share if it all gets too much, it's a very good place to vent!

Heyhey, I am unsurprised that you've found the process has such an effect on your MH. Our previous purchase had me feeling very much the same (am prone to huge anxiety attacks and depressive lows at times of high stress) we pulled out a week before exchange and the relief the next morning was immense. This time it's all so much easier because we truly love the house with very little compromise on the big stuff. And because we all need to move ASAP, I believe vendor is pushing things along as fast as we are and communication is good. I just keep telling myself that we will complete next month and I will never have to do this again.*

• I know that's not true but we've no reason to really unless we want to move back to the city, highly unlikely.

Anyways... Just got home to loads of paperwork to read through. Both exciting and boring

Thanks oatcakes. I'll keep everyone in line then

Can I join?!
Currently in the no-man's land of waiting for exchange. All draft contracts are with solicitors and enquiries (some quite bizarre) have been made/are being answered.
Our buyers are very flighty and have pulled out of the sale before so we won't be able to relax until exchange is through. They are doing all the right things at the moment so I sincerely hope they are committed (this time).
Our vendors are being great and very helpful, long may it continue.
Our solicitor is also very good and does respond quickly.
Buyer's had the valuation survey done on our property last week, should be fine but can't help worrying until it is through. Once that is done we will be booking the full building survey on the property we are buying. It's too expensive to book it until we know buyers aren't going to have any issue with our property's value.
It's like being on constant tenterhooks. EA is pretty useless and not proactive and seems to annoy everyone else so I'm not contacting them at all, dealing directly with buyer's agent (very helpful) and my solicitor.
I cannot wait until we reach exchange (IF we do) - I can't help having a desperate sinking feeling about it all after our buyer's previous behaviour but on the other hand it's hard not to start planning what to do in the property we want to buy...

Anyway, essay over. Fingers crossed for everyone that their sales/purchase go through quickly.

Oh, I can't bear this any more. I'm completely on edge, snappy with the DC and have the old, familiar feeling of anxiety/dread/panic as a constant presence in my stomach . We've been ready to exchange for a month, our vendors have been ready for 2 weeks, but numbers 1 and 2 in the chain still haven't signed their contracts. Every day that goes by when we don't exchange I'm losing hope that we ever will and we'll have to start the whole sorry business again. I've not heard anything to suggest this, but I do not now have the energy to shut the annoying, negative voice in my head up! Such a crap year so far - my DF died in Feb - I really need this to happen so that I can just let go. I've gone onto autopilot and beyond chasing the EA and solicitor pretty constantly (both of whom are good, it's further up that we're on a go slow), I can't think of what else to do other than .. AAAAAARGGGGGGGHHHHHH.

Ah, that's what else I can do - rant on here

It's the worst isn't it. The current property market it not something I relish being back in. No wonder moving house is so high on the stressful life events list. I think it's the feeling of being completely out of control of something so huge - such a big life decision to move in the first place and then all the financial implications and then worst of all being entirely dependent on other people who could change their minds at any moment.

I just keep hoping everyone is as motivated as us to move. Our buyers are probably the least motivated as theirs is a lifestyle thing. Think everyone else in the chain has more concrete reasons (health, children/schools etc).
Have you got any reason to doubt other people in the chain? Do you know why they haven't signed? Maybe they have gone on holiday - that's another delay when you are going through the process over the summer. Our first house move, our solicitor went on holiday for two weeks during our sale. That was fun!

Hope your exchange goes through very soon.

Oh and I'm very sorry to hear about your DF Avon

Sounds like some of you are having the worst time of it! for all!!

I know our last purchase had us both as you describe Avon. Just horrid.

I'm feeling remarkably calm- in comparison to my usual somewhat highly strung self.

Had an email to say vendor has signed and returned his contract, hazzaahhh!

So now I think it's just my side doing searches and enquiries, any idea how long I might be waiting on this bit? I'm unsure what enquiries they are making as I haven't made any

How close do you reckon we are from exchange?*

• disclaimer: I know none of you really know but still humour me!

I desperately want to complete before term starts.

I've also gained a stone since we started this house buying shit at the start of the year. I really need it to just be over!

How's everyone getting on? We are now a week from completion. We pick up the keys on the Friday (hopefully) and have decided to move on Saturday just because trying to work out when to book a removal can was too difficult.

We have to go and see the flat next week to make sure the tenants are out. Not sure what happens if they're still there other than me having a massive panic attack and freaking out! I hope they're gone and I really hope they don't move in downstairs as they suggested they might.

Great news Kirinm! Your'e nearly there. I am not in a good place... just posted separately on this. It's so stressful and I feel lost at sea.

Thank you StanleyPinkerton. Fingers crossed for everyone. sellotape12 sorry to hear that. I'll have a look for your other thread.

Fingers crossed Kirin!

We get our keys on Monday. DH and PIL are going round tonight to measure up. I can't face it as I'm still convinced something will go wrong!!! FIL in particular wants to make disapproving faces at our horrible vendor I think. Bellend

Oh P.S. I took a card and bottle of champagne to scary solicitor, the one who finally took over and got it done, and she burst into tears! She's leaving the company and said it was nice to go out with a bang We've said if we ever need a conveyancing solicitor again (PLEASE NO) we will find her no matter where she works!

Great news Hey! I don't think our solicitor deserves champagne but my boyfriend sent him a nice email. We might stretch to a card I suppose!

I feel oddly optimistic but may be feeling differently if the tenant is still there on Monday!

I'm getting very impatient. In my head. Ack.. Feels so close and YET SO FAR AWAY STILLLLLLLLLLL

Nervy that's how I felt once we'd signed the contract. Then it turned out the vendor had lied and everything was delayed for two more weeks. You'll feel SO much better once you've exchanged.