bruffin, lisata mentioned that there are problems with the way that schools are currently teaching spelling
"My guess is that since we haven't had a synthetic phonics based curriculum for the whole population before we are still developing the appropriate strategies. Early SP is easy. Later on SP is hard to teach well and teachers need to be trained. Equally there must be great strategies for teaching spelling with phonics but they need to be gathered together and shared. Teachers certainly are not using them in schools at present. "
debbiehep also mentioned the same problem
"What I am saying, then, is that we have a long way to go before people can attribute children's reading and spelling to the use of leading-edge methods and materials. I suggest many schools are still at the stage of muddling along - or they may have some stronger synthetic phonics teaching in Reception which may fizzle out higher up the school - particularly where spelling is concerned.
Personally, I thought the 9 year old lad did some pretty sensible spelling all things considered.
Spelling needs to be worked at really hard and consistently and teachers are not provided with adequate resources and training to do this - nor is there adequate time spent at school teaching spelling."
My agenda, based on my experience of learning how to spell in several languages without using phonetics, was to offer some non-phonetic methods which might help improve her son's spelling.
Your agenda, based on your son's problems with spelling, was one of no hope. Your advice involved the use of spell checkers and relaxing
"Thank god for spell checkers, DS does most of his homework on PC. "
"Flummoxed if you want advice from another mother who has been there, try and relax again about the spelling so he can get back to enjoying writing."
and your answer to flummoxednow's hopes that her son would crack his spelling difficulties was
"Flummoxed he will be capable of anything whether he cracks it or not"
I don't think flummoxednow is at the point of giving up yet, she believes something can be done and I agree with her.