Anyone else hate the clickiness of the school mums at the school gates?

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I'm beginning to feel like a right billy no mates at my dd's school. We know a few mums but none very well & they all know other mums better iykwim. The joys of small town life when you're an outsider! It's really beginning to bug me though the unfriendliness of some mums, they just blank me. My dd is the one of the class that cries most of teh day & i don't know if this adds to thesituation, we both feel a bit left out. Of course I act all jolly in the playground so as dd doesn't pick up on it. At the moment I hate school drop off as dd cries & I leave it til the last minute picking her up so as not to feel left out

ds started y1 a few weeks ago and till now, i have yet to meet someone who is willing to talk to me. i am always the one who make the move to start a conversation. it is just smile and walked away kinda of situation with them.

one or two parents in ds class whom i have greeted, smile or made a small talk just blank me out at pick up time.

however being alone is quite a good thing too because you tends to hear gossip about others when the group near you is talking so loudly.

well, i have been reading the threads on mn and know that i am not the only one experiencing it. so i am kinda prepared for it.

i am putting my name down to help in some school activities and i am going to take my time to look for a friend.

luckily ds is having a smashing time in school and getting along fine with the kids.

DS has been at his school for four years and I don't know any of the other mums as I wasn't born and raised in this town and they only seem to talk to people they've known since playgroup. Lots of other mums and dads stand on their own too. I listen to my iPod until DS comes out and we leave straight away.

I'm in the same boat. DS has just started in yr4 at a small village school where the kids and parents have known each other since birth. How the heck ds and I are going to penetrate this lot is beyond me! By chance I got chatting to another mum today, whos daughter has just started and we feel exactly the same. May have a friend at last!

Hi
I've passed the stage of getting to know them, and actually have 3-4 friends already. Thing is, sometime conversations tend to become blank and I find myself struggling to find something to talk about. how can I overcome this point? I'm getting nervous when it happens and my bodyling says it all! HELP.Ps I'm not originally british, I live here for 10 years and maybe that's why, but don't think so.

I have 2 sons who both go to different primary schools. One school I enjoy dropping and picking ds up as the parents are so friendly. The other school is the complete opposite - the parents are very cliquey and I find it hard to open conversations with them. There are one or two mums who are nice thank goodness. I can't wait until I can get ds2 into the same school as ds1.

Some schools are like this, some arent.

Some good tips about turning up early. But it can sometimes be hard to be early and have no one to talk to!

I found the best way was to give a party for DS, then you get to meet the parents outside school and they come to you.

But you may come to the conclusion tht you dont want to be part of the clique, and thats OK too. You have to decide. I just say hello to everyone, but dont get overly involved, thats as much as I need from the experience.