Is my son likely to get suspended tomorrow?

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I am at my wits end! DS 6.5 is currently under assessment for adhd. He's extremely hard work but the school deal with him really well.

However, today, he punched a little girl in the back on the way out of school. The headteacher saw him and shouted him back. He ran away and out the school gates, with the childminder hot on his tail. The Headteacher continued to shout him back and he turned round and stuck his two fingers up at her. OMG I could murder him right now!

Consequently, I've to go into the school at 9am tomorrow morning. I have a really bad feeling she's going to suspend him, which wouldn't punish him at all, he'll see it as a couple of days off school, it'll be ME that's getting punished.

He's in his room at the moment, grounded and his trip to the local carnival removed. He just doesn't understand the severity of what he's done. He just doesn't "get" it, iykwim. I would never have done that kind of thing, would have been too scared of how much trouble I'd be in off the HT. .

Don't quite know what else to do with him!

Ladies, thanks to your much appreciated support and input, we have had a lovely evening tonight.

I've taken many of the strategies that you have recommended and for once I think I have managed not to shout for anything, and trust me he's pushed the buttons more than once tonight.

DH and I have had a good talk, a bottle of wine to loosen the tongue and we're going to try really really hard to just let our wee guy be who he is. we'll just do as much cleaning up after him as we need to do.

Someone mentioned Michael Phelps earlier, when dh and I saw him at the olympics winning his medals and then do his "thing" we both said at the same time "that's ds!" rofl. Another that we liken him to is Jim Carey (I believe another adder!).

Unfortunately he is totally NOT into football, as much as he is a big bag of testosterone and agression at times, football is not his thing. Yes, you'll find him 30 ft up a tree needing rescued (last week!) but you'll equally find him with his "harem" playing barbie.

We tried him at tai kwon do, but unfortunately he couldn't deal with the discipline and the structure of the class. He has also been for swimming lessons in a group but the teacher couldn't cope with his lack of concentration or his disruptiveness so we removed him and had the odd private lesson instead. BUT I'm hoping he's going to start new lessons this week as now he's a wee bit older he might be able to apply himself a bit more as it's probably one of the very few things he loves.

Right, going to stop yibbiting now and get myself off to bed. I know I keep saying thank you over and over again, but once again, thank you. I really do appreciate all the advice you have given me. xxx

just come across this thread & wanted to say that it seems you're working really hard & doing really well with your ds.
i also think that the school are being quite obstrrctive - they don't really believe there's anything wrong with him, but his behaviour needs you to go & see the head? that's a contradiction. not sure about scotland, but in england you have the right to demand statement assessment, and then he has to be reivewed, and then again in a year. i can't understand why they're not pushing for this - it helps them & him. i think you should start demanding more support from them, as the 'he'll grow out of it' diea isn't working right now is it?

How about rugby? Lots of running and you need to be aware of everything to get yourself into position and you need to have no fear to throw yourself into the scrum. when DS started rugby he had been having a tough time at school (or poss the school had been having a challenging time with him ) and the rugby teacher said "I have heard a lot about you young Worried - you sound like the sort of boy we need on the team!".
He enjoys it and hasn't broken anything. Running is also good as you just point them in the right direction and they run until they hit the tape. Avoid javelins tho'

Worried PML at the thought of my ds1 in charge of a javelin My ds also starts rugby in Sept, but he's not impressed about the tag aspect ... said he can't wait to to do full contact and 'get them on the ground!!" Thinks me has some work to do on him before the season starts ....

Ladies,

Could you come and have a read of the new thread I've posted here, you all gave me such wonderful advice here I hope you can help on this thread. I didn't want to confuse things further by just adding to this one.