i disagree.
the first port of call for any parent concerned about their child is the school. teacher, senco, head. if a parent is unable to set up decent communication with the setting in the first term of a child's attendance, then there really is an awful lot more to the issue than the OP is aware of. what on earth is the point of contacting ipsea when you haven't spoken at length to the school about what they are, and are not, able to put in place, other than a throwaway comment about not statementing until yr 2? ipsea will advise the parent (the parent, mind, not the parent of another child who happens to spend a period of the school week in the classroom as unpaid help) to speak with the school, and come back if they still have concerns.
to be running after a statement after a few weeks of school is way out of line, unless these issues have been addressed at length via nursery and nursery/ school transition meetings - in which case it is highly likely if the nursery were doing their job that the child is known to the area incco and ep in any case. if that is so, it is highly likely that they are monitoring the situation to determine the outcome of the change of setting.
the parent needs to discuss this at length woith the school, not with another parent. after discussion with the school and determining what they are actually doing about the problem (i refuse to believe that a school who are intending to statement in two years time would be doing nothing at the moment - as i said befire, it makes no sense to wait) and then getting independent advice if she deems it necessary.
really sceptical about the 'statementing in yr 2' thing. it is equally possible that the school made a comment like 'it is not necessary at this point - we would look at it again. if this behaviour continued into yr 2, for example, we would need to look at something like a statment' ie it is within the bounds of normal behaviour for a very young yr r child, and as such, not an immediate concern whilst we help the child adapt to the new routine. the mother may have misunderstood the context of the comment, not the school were refusing to put help in place for a needy child....
there's an awful lot of knickers getting twisted here, over what seems to be a very common situation.
yes, OP, teacher or senco is the first port of call. (and remind the parent you are not allowed to discuss anything that happens in the classroom with her)
no, the statementing system is not perfect, but an awful lot of angst can be avoided by very simple communication between the parents and the school, involving others when it becomes necessary. imvho, it has not reached that point in this instance, as the parent involved appears to be choosing to discuss the issue with the wrong people (ie a parent helper.... who is not allowed to discuss it in any case)