UQD
Lie down. With a cup of tea or something. And Listen very carefully.
You ask "So why do we live in a society where a school is recognised as failing, judged as such by significant numbers of parents in the catchment, and yet thought to "do" for the vast majority of kids?"
I do not know. I did not vote for this nonsense. I did not create our educational system. I pay large amounts of taxes which I would have hoped might have been spent on education (remember "Education, education education"?) but the government went off the rails and started spending money on wars instead. This is NOT MY FAULT. IT IS NOT THE FAULT OF ANY INDEPENDENT SCHOOL PARENT.
You say "for 90% of people it is not a choice between "luxuries" and school fees. It is simply that there is no choice other than the "inadequate" comprehensive."
I accept this point. I've no idea why you felt you had to make it 10 times. Inequality exists in just about every aspect of people's lives. The wealthier people are, the better health they enjoy, the better diets, the better healthcare, the longer they live etc. This is the way that life is.
You want life not to be like this. I don't blame you. I want life not to be like this as well. The difference between us is that you are facing an incoming tide and commanding it most imperiously to stop while I am building a boat.
I note by the way, that you only vent your spleen on independent school parents. How do you feel about faith school parents? Surely this is just a variation on the same theme? Or what about schools in £1m+ house price catchment areas? Isn't that more of the same?