DS only been in Reception for four days and has learnt a swear word!

[TheSweetLittleBunny]

Apparently another little child said it at his before school club. (The f-word) This child is also in his class and DS has become friends with him. TBH while I was overhearing a conversation between the child's mum (mum 3 kids, no parter, aged about 22!)and a friend I was secretly hoping that DS was not going to be friends with the boy and lo and behold ..... they are practically bessie mates

We never use such language in front of DS - and I can't even understand how anyone would do so to the extent that the child can repeat the word elsewhere.

DS is very bright but he loves being the centre of the action and attention, so is quite easily led, but he is not naughty, is very well mannered and well brought up. I am worried that DS is going to make friends with people that will distract him from his school work.

I had a similar situation with a girl at nursery, who DS formed a friendship with, and this caused lots of problems with DS behaviour at home. Thankfully we don't see her now - different schools.

I was a SAHM for nearly 5 years, and have put a lot of time and effort into DS, done lots with him, taken him to various activities, like music/drama, Tumbletots, football, swimming, we do lots of stuff together like crafts, making cakes, having a laugh - both DH and I.

I am so worried that all this will be undone because of other people's children, that for whatever reason may not have had that kind of input.

Am I worrying un-necessarily?

so one sentence quoting what she wrote in the op is bashing is it?

and i did read the thread. but it seemed a bit like backtracking to me. she later said she wasn't judging her cos of the fact she was a single mum of 22 with 3 kids but cos of other things. if that was the case why would you post it in the first place and not these other things?

anyhoo that's the joy of living in a free country isn't it. we can each think and say what we want.

I agree rachelp73.

It is really difficult to put everything in a post because it would be terribly long winded, so you just have to try and summarise and hope for the best. I have found in the past that sometimes no matter what you put, if people want to jump all over it they will do so and that sometimes puts me off Mumsnet. But nevertheless knowing that this was likely, I still posted.

My comment about being a SAHM was not meant to imply that this was more favourable to being a working mother. And I did mention that I am now working. But like I said, explaining this is irrelevant if people have fundamentally taken a defensive stance in the first place.

Thankfully a lot of the advice I have had today has really helped me put things into perspective. In particular what Cory said "Your job is to teach him about the world and how to deal with it, it's not to protect him from it". I guess I had been dealing with DS from the perspective of a mother looking after a baby, which you need to protect, he's growing now and I know I need to let go a bit.

dd can't speak and never well but I'm guessing when her school chums learn to read they will programme some bad words in her communication aid.
I'm lucky in that I can switch it off
Do wonder how I'm going to enable her to be naughty and smoke behind the bikesheds though.

We went to the England game and the men behind kindly chanted 'Rooney, Rooney, Rooney is a cunt, cunt, cunt.'
'Yes' sighed DS, 'I know not to repeat it, Mum.'
Riven - would love to see how they're going to spell some of those words.

TSLB

You just need to teach your DS to make his own decisions. Swearing is not that bad in the grand scheme of things. When his is older, kids will be taking drugs etc...