I burst into tears at dinner today when I asked dd what she did at playtime and she said I walked around on my own.

[twinsetandpearls]

We have just moved to the other end of the country, we moved so dd could have a better life, the kind of childhood we wished we had had.

She is 6.11 and started her new school today, she has always been a popular child and very confident. Over the summer holidays we sent her to lots of holiday clubs and activities to make friends which she did but the children were all older than her, she seems to make friends with older children much easier.

I just can't bear it that dd had a hard day and nobody to play with, I am filling up as I type this. She was so happy where we were and I know she wants to go back.

How long should I leave it before talking to the school.

There is one girl she spoke to in class, I thought about inviting her to tea.

My eldest dd had a phase of saying that she didn't play with anyone which made me worry but several times I was at school doing pta things and she was happily playing in the middle of a gang of little girls!

I mentioned it to her teacher as well and they always said that she got on with everyone but didn't have a specific special friend and that she was fine.

She now has a specific special friend who I would be happier if she played with less but thats another story!

You are right cory, I think I do quite often project my feelings on to her.

She has been chatting away all evening about her friends, dd and I went out for tea just the two of us so we could chat and she does see, to have settled in really well. She does miss her old school and says she was happier there but that is to be expacted a week in.

oh twinset your OP made me so sad. It reminded me of how things were for me at primary school....I didnt tell my parents though. I'm not sure they ever asked tbh.

I'm so glad she's getting on fine. Even happier that she was spinning you a line iykwim?

DD mixing and settling at school was a huge thing for me because of my experiences. I really neednt have worried. Our children arent us, are they?

glad its all ok in the end.

kids eh!

spoke to my nephew yesterday evening after his first day of school - - they moved 300 miles and now live near us. he started school 2 weks before term ended last year.

i said to him " do youhave lots and lots of friends"
"no" he said " i was on mi own"

"lets see, do you have one friend, two friends or three friends" says i blatently ignoring the woe is me remark,

"SEVENTEEN"
"WOW seventeen!"

kids

Ds went to his new school today for a visit - he starts next term which for us is October.

They gave him a mat buddy, and then he had a reading buddy - basically some child on the same level, then a maths buddy (ditto), then an art buddy (could be trusted with scissors), a lunch buddy (someone with no peanut butter sandwiches) then a playground buddy (someone who liked the flying fox). Basically every child got a chance to be ds's buddy for 30 minutes giving him the impression that he made loads of friends, and without depriving one child of their other friends for the whole day. Teachers take note this was very tactful and worked a treat.

lol custardo my conversation with dd was similar.

twentypence that is a good idea.