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DD starts school on Thursday, DS starts nursery the following Monday. Am feeling all wobbly and sad about it.

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moodlumthehoodlum · 30/08/2008 22:30

Slap me and tell me to grow up. I am looking forward to the spare time etc but I feel sad about it, I really do.

I know. I need to get a life.

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rozzyraspberry · 01/09/2008 13:28

My ds1 also started school 2 weeks ago. He was really excited about it and so far is really loving it. First couple of weeks he was only there until 12.20 but this is his first full day today - I'm sitting here fretting about how he got on at school dinners - he's never been out on his own for lunch before

herbgarden · 01/09/2008 13:35

Makes me want to weep reading these posts and ds is not going off for another 2 years ! God I'm going to be hopeless ! And I suspect that I'll be no fitter or glamorous and nor will my house be any tidier or more organised.....

tigger32 · 01/09/2008 15:59

My ds1 starts school on wednesday and will be 5 on Thursday, so really i've been lucky to have him home for 5 years but I still feel really sad that life will never be the same again He is very excited though!

BadgerQueen · 01/09/2008 16:05

Crying and typing here, and I loved school as little one. DD starts school on Thursday and I feel like I am grieving, not sure what for though - she is such a beautiful little person and so excited about being a big girl, I just don't want all her lovely funny earnestness (sp?) to disappear and that "whatever" attitude to replace it. I think I am worried they won't realise how special and precious she is - but I'm sure everyone feels that way. I shall be one of those mothers hiding behind the wall at breaktime trying to see her. My dad always says you bring them up well so that they can leave you well. (not sure that its worked as I still keep going "home" at 35!)

freshprincess · 01/09/2008 21:00

I had a little weep after I paid the last instalment for nursery last week. My DTs aren't starting for another week - I know I'm going to a wreck, I've got a lump in my throat just thinking about it.

(Will probably perk up a bit next month when I'm £600 better off though!)

LuLuMacGloo · 01/09/2008 22:52

Feling like a v bad mum now - am I the only one who is a little bit pleased that dd (my youngest) has just started school...

She can learn and socialise. I can get some work done (self employed, work from home). We can still spend a huge amount of time togather...(about 170 days a year according to my calculations...)

potatofactory · 02/09/2008 06:45

you're right,LLMG. Thanks for blast of sensible-ness

iliketosleep · 02/09/2008 08:26

I was when all 3 of my dc started school, DS started last year at 4 as he is an August baby. He goes into year 1 today and dd2 is starting juniors with dd1. You do get over the feeling and this time next year you will be just like me, which is......

SCHOOLS BACK WOOHOOOOOOOOOO

fortyplus · 02/09/2008 10:27

Wait till they go to secondary school and they won't let you anywhere near it! It's such a culture shock after primary - I can only remember the names of about 3 of their teachers, most of whom are young enough to be a child of mine!

themildmanneredstalker · 02/09/2008 10:31

well i disagree actually.
ds1 has gone int year 4 today and ds2 into year 2 and i'm sitting here feeling very weepy indeed.

Nbg · 02/09/2008 10:33

I feel sick today.
DD starts reception tomorrow and ds1 starts preschool on monday morning.

I thought I would be ok about this.
Obviously not.

BananaSkin · 02/09/2008 11:52

I know exactly how you feel . DS2 starts next week. DS1 is already at school, so I know that in reality the school day is very short once you have got home, done some work, had lunch etc. But everything will be speeded up in my life now as I will only have one at home to look after, and that makes me feel really really sad.

If it helps, they only spend 13% of their lives at school - this statistic usually cheers me up!

climbanymountain · 02/09/2008 12:52

I have really suprised myself because I didn't think I'd be upset. I have been a SAHM now for five years and though it's been hard I have loved their company. I'm going to SO miss picnics, days out,swimming - all on a whim. I'm going to miss meeting up with my friends too as they all now feel they have to go back to work as the kids start school.

Poor DS is such a little mite. I'm worried about the big boys. He's also going to see foe the first time that he's not as physically able as the others. Plus he lives in a complete fantasy/imaginative world which I play along with. His teachers aren't going to have any time for that kind of thing. I am worried he's going to lose all that innocence.

iliketosleep · 02/09/2008 13:23

Ok I sent last message before they had gone this morning, am now sitting here wondering how their first day back has gone, hoping dd2s day has been enjoyable and just generally missing them.

Feeling a bit teary but that could be down to hormones as I had dd3 6 days ago

fransmom · 02/09/2008 16:22

dd starts nursery/ pre-school on friday, am now starting to have mixed feelings about it now.

onwardandupward · 02/09/2008 16:27

Can you follow whatever your gut tells you, fransmom?

fransmom · 02/09/2008 16:43

congrats ilike xxx

am not sure what you mean onward? why bolden myname? am curious

happypiglet · 02/09/2008 16:48

I feel just the same. DS2 started preschool today (4 monrings a week) and DS1 starts school on Monday. Thank god I have DD at home still to keep me occupied. DS2 loved pre school this am and DS1's teacher visited this pm and he is really excited about starting. I just don't know what I will do with myself with only 1 at home!!!
I thought I would be really relishing the thought of more time to do stuff but actually I feel a bit bereft. Sob

onwardandupward · 02/09/2008 17:00

Boldened your name so you'd see I was answering you rather than just a random post Just being friendly

I dunno, having "mixed feelings" about something is often my gut or my heart (or maybe my subconscious) trying to communicate to my rational Left Brain Self that something is wrong. When I'm fully convinced of a course of action, then I don't get mixed feelings about it.

Oooh, watch me project my entire personality onto you, based on two casually spoken words in a one-line post! Well, you'll know whether or not it's relevant to you slinks away with tail between legs

fransmom · 02/09/2008 17:04

i know she will be fine and we are both excited about ti but both dd and i, i think, will miss each other til we get used to it. i have been lp for 11mths and that is why we both have mixed feelings. am been positive baout ti for dd's sake tho

allgonebellyup · 02/09/2008 18:45

i am dreading ds going, as he is my youngest and i know i wont have any more.

i will also be upset as i have to meet his dad there, as we split last year (biggest regret of my life) and i was always 100% certain we would be together when ds started school

Now ds will have to look at his parents standing on opposite sides of the playground from each other when the other 29 sets of parents are all together.

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moodlumthehoodlum · 02/09/2008 21:38

AAAGGGHH

DS' pre school teacher came today, and DS starts tomorrow, not monday like I thought.

I was fine about it. But now I'm not.

He's so little, and the other boys in the class can be so roughty toughty. He such a sweetheart, I'd hate him to change.

arse. I swore I wouldn't cry and now I am.

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jamhead · 02/09/2008 22:25

DD1 started school today and I cried. I knew I probably would but was not prepared for sobbing uncontrollably all the way home! Still can't really say why but I agree with most of the posts on here - it's a mix of selfishness, end of an era, worry they'll change or be uhappy etc.

Btw she was really really excited and came home super-happy, so it would be madness not to pull myself together!

Good to know lots of other mummies feel the same though - that's what mumsnet is all about isn't it?

Nbg · 03/09/2008 10:34

Yep, I showed myself up at school.
DD was so excited about going but when it came to her actually going through the door she became all reluctant, so that and seeing another lady struggle with her ds, I lost it

As we walked out the gates I said to dh, I think I'm going to go and have a cry when we get home, but it decided to come out there and then instead.

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moodlumthehoodlum · 03/09/2008 16:08

I cried today, but fortunately not at preschool, just at home before we left. DS went off so happy that I couldn't really be sad.

Tomorrow, with dd going to school, will be a different matter tho'. Why o why did I have my children so close together.

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