Worried about summer born

[Kidsdeferralsummer]

I have a bright summer born DD, who we didn't defer and is starting Year 1. We had the opportunity to repeat reception at a different school (as i looked into CSA starts) but decided not to because she seems to be doing well academically in Reception ( was extended etc). Socially she seemed OK, has a couple of closer friends but still would be nervous at playgrounds for example when I take her to them and soemtimes says she has no friends at school. 1-1 playdates and small groups she does well and is very confident.

I am now having a huge huge worry that we should have let her repeat reception since the opportunity was there, even though she is already reading chapter books and has a high maths aptitude..I keep reading online about the statistics, and people saying that summer borns will struggle all through GSCE, summer borns never catch up etc and can't help but worry that I have subjected her to more stress through her schooling years by virtue of being younger.

This is esp as we are in a 11+ area so my husband and I will look to have her do 11+, if she is also keen, which means she will be among the youngest.
. My husband and I both did well at school and in uni.

Any tips please for 1) how to support a summer born at school, 2) how to basically get over this worry and not project it to my daughter? I am not sure if we can even repeat reception now at this stage as that school spot is now gone.

Thanks in advance.

@PiesAreSquared Not that I deferred my August born DD. She was more than ready for school.

I do see the point about age differences as well and overall, few summer borns should be deferred. Developmental delay and sen are obvious reasons to delay but not just the fact that they are younger because there’s simply no good reason. My DD needed to be taught to read and get on with her school career. She was never ever an obvious summer born.

Both my kids are summer born. Both excel at school. My DD is Y10 at a selective grammar school and would have been so bored in the year below. My son will sit the 11+ next year to attend the same school. It sounds like you have a very bright DD, in which case you are unlikely to have problems. Sadly, for some children it wouldn’t matter if they moved down a year, they would still struggle. Academic intelligence, just like sporting ability, is not fairly distributed. I say this as a teacher of many years.

My youngest started school a week after her 4 th birthday. She loved school. Her best friend had an early Sept birthday so a year older. She never struggled. Went to local primary and secondary, got all 9's in GCSE and A* in A levels and is about to start a Psychology degree at a German uni. Unless you are seeing any issues, don't stress about it.