Hi,
looking for opinions & maybe overreacting but have experienced behaviours of other primary school mums of dd classmates that I have never come across before! Generally I get on with ppl & other mums but dd not always liked, she’s only a child & may not understand certain social situations & may unintentionally sometimes make inappropriate comments. I don’t know if/what has been said to other classmates but I feel could have created tension between other mums who I may only know very much on a surface level but surprised at how toxic they can be. An example, one mum, dd used to play with her dd & had one or two play dates, but mum out of the blue was very abrupt towards me when I bumped into her at the school. Couldn’t figure it out so actively avoided her as thought she was extremely rude. Since then, she has given me dirty looks and at a class party she posted photos on the watsapp gp of my daughter jokingly holding onto the phone of her friend in one photo and in the nxt, friend taking back her phone. It may seem like nothing and coincidental but I felt she was trying to subtly paint dd in a bad light.
Another mum completely ignores me when passing although I have spoken to her casually a number of times. She will only speak to me when I am talking to a ‘trendy’ mum who she also knows. Recently there was a parents night which she was main organizer of. Pictures were put up on school website of the night and I was horrified when I saw the most unflattering photos of me taken at times when I wasn’t aware that I was being photographed (they did have an official photographer) & looking really unphotogenic at all angles. I can’t help feeling that this particular mum wanted these photos included which she would have been in a position to control due to the fact that she was one of the main organizers. Of course, she looked amazing in all the photos she appeared in. I have to say I cried when I saw them and felt so ashamed of my appearance. These mums are all extremely glamorous. I don’t know why ppl have the ability to show such hate towards others and to be so vindictive. I would never intentionally hurt another person so I can’t understand why this calibre of a school mum would find it so acceptable to treat another like this. Same mum , at dd graduation party, helped organise the event and at the end, I went up to grab some left over pizza. She was right beside me when I turned around taking a big bite and she said nothing, just gave me a dirty look and grunted at me as though I shouldn’t have taken any although the party was finishing and the kids had already helped themselves. I’ve never felt so low. I tried to pass it off with a light hearted laugh but she just looked disgusted.