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How do you find time for reading out loud with children?

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Coyote72 · 16/01/2025 21:10

I have a 5 year old in Y1. We really really struggle to fit reading out loud into our daily schedule. He's alright with reading, but definitely would benefit from time reading with us.

Would love to hear how others manage this or any hot tips.

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StrugglingAsAlways · 16/01/2025 21:10

Before bed, ten minutes while they are getting snuggled up. We sometimes used to read to them in the bath as well!

Notgonnalieaboutthis · 16/01/2025 21:10

Get off Mumsnet for a start!

user1471474138 · 16/01/2025 21:11

We used to do it at bedtime, she’d read to me for a bit then I’d read her her bedtime story

littleluncheon · 16/01/2025 21:11

Bedtime?

poppetandmog · 16/01/2025 21:12

We do it at bedtime and alternate me reading and him reading.

Alwaystired2023 · 16/01/2025 21:13

Before bed? We always read a few books.. or do you mean time for your child to read to you? That's a bit tricker because they might be too tired, my DC needs to use a lot of brain power bless them so mornings are better, honestly I just grab the book and do it, I figure 5mins is better than none. Tonight we did it before bed, tomorrow it might be before school if we are all ready on time - sorry that's not very helpful I just grab the time when I can

LittleRedRidingHoody · 16/01/2025 21:13

Bedtime, every night. Before he could read he looked at the pictures and followed my finger on the page. Now, he'll pick a book (from age appropriate ones, he's 5) and read it to me, then I'll read to him from whatever chapter book we're on.

PigInAHouse · 16/01/2025 21:14

Literally any time we’ve got a free 10 mins. Sometimes before dinner, sometimes after, sometimes before bath, sometimes bed time…

Bey · 16/01/2025 21:14

Notgonnalieaboutthis · 16/01/2025 21:10

Get off Mumsnet for a start!

She's not going to be reading to a 5 year old at 10 past 9 at night is she.

ArghhWhatNext · 16/01/2025 21:16

After tea.
Please do it. I’m a primary school teacher and we had a meeting the other night about pupil progress. Essentially, the children who 3-4 years ago we were discussing and saying “not making progress with reading as not reading at home” are now in KS2 and needing to understand more written stuff in all areas of the curriculum (including maths). And the lack of practice with reading slows them down, leads to errors in comprehension- and the gap between them and their counterparts who have been reading widens.

CornishDew · 16/01/2025 21:27

Little and often. My DD will read to me whilst I’m cooking, putting my face on and whilst I’m driving as well as intentionally finding time to sit and read together. However I’ve driven her love for reading from a young age. We have always kept a big pile of books at the table to read at breakfast and I will read after I’ve finished lunch/dinner whilst DD is still eating. Also whilst she plays, when she’s in the bath and at bedtime. It expands their language and she will often alternate reading pages with me and then happily go back to listening whilst playing

Labraradabrador · 16/01/2025 23:29

I always read to my children before bed - really lovely part of our routine, and so valuable for the child. i tend to read books a bit ahead of their ability to read independently but in line with comprehension. I do think you reading to them is more valuable than them reading to you, though ideally you find time for both.

them reading to me varies. One child reads to me before I read to them in the evening.other child struggles with tiredness in the evenings and we read in the morning - either over breakfast or we get to school a few minutes early and read in the car, which is great for making it time limited and minimising distractions.

MumChp · 16/01/2025 23:32

Reading with and for the children has always been a top priority. It is a choice.

crumblingschools · 16/01/2025 23:34

What is your daily routine @Coyote72

Like many others bedtime was a good time, both with DS reading to us and us reading to him

IdaGlossop · 16/01/2025 23:39

Always before bed. Sometimes between getting home from school and tea. In the car before school if we got there early. In the bath at weekends (shared bath). In museums and visitor attractions when children's books are provided. In the library after ballet on Saturday. On the train on day trips. On long boat trips on holiday. 15 years ago now but wonderful memories still.

BettyBardMacDonald · 17/01/2025 00:20

Notgonnalieaboutthis · 16/01/2025 21:10

Get off Mumsnet for a start!

This.

Make 20 minutes at least for reading at bedtime. Without fail.

OnlyMothersInTheBuilding · 17/01/2025 00:51

Are they in wraparound care? If so it is trickier, I used to have this problem as my daughter was at school 8-6 most days and by the time you squeeze meals around that it is genuinely hard to find 10 minutes.

I made me reading to them non-negotiable but I used to save them reading to me for the weekends. She did fine and is a keen independent reader now.

BoleynMemories13 · 17/01/2025 06:38

Reading to them before bed is a really easy thing to weave into their bedtime routine right from birth, but if you don't already do this it's not too late to start. Just get them ready for bed 10 minutes earlier. If they're old enough to know what time is bedtime and put up a fight about going up 10 minutes earlier, let them get ready as normal and have lights out 10 minutes later than you use to so you can fit in a story. Ten minutes less is nothing in the grand scheme of things when it comes to their sleep time (and your down time once they're asleep), but it'll make the world of difference to their future academic success if those ten minutes a day are used to foster a love of books and reading. You may even find that you love and look forward to this quality time each day too. Many parents look back on the bedtime stories days with great fondness. It can be one of the most rewarding parts of parenting.

Depending on the age of the child, I wouldn't recommend asking them to read to you before bed. For new readers at the start of their journey, it takes a lot of focus and brain power to decode words. Bedtime is much too late to get the best out of them. Save bedtimes for you reading to them, to make it a pleasurable rather than potentially stressful experience.

Some children read better in the morning. Setting an alarm just 10 minutes earlier is all it takes to fit it in. Other children are better after school, but not too late. A quick snack when you get in, then it's time to read for a few minutes before they play and you crack on with dinner etc. Keep it little but often. The mistake many make is assuming that listening to their child read is something they need to 'fit in', as in allocating half an hour or more to it. This isn't possible in most families, and therefore it just doesn't happen if it's seen as something you need to allocate a real chunk of time to. If you do just a few minutes every day, it will have far more impact than finding half and hour once every week on a Sunday afternoon (for example). They'll lose focus after a few minutes anyway and it won't be an enjoyable experience. If they know it's something they need to do every day, but for just a few minutes, it becomes as routine as brushing their teeth. We don't stress about 'fitting in' teeth brushing, it's just something that seamlessly happens as part of the daily routine. There's no reason reading can't be seen as the same. It's just something we do at a set time each day. It's so normal and quick we don't even think about it and it doesn't seem like a chore.

I agree it is somewhat a choice. Everyone can find a few spare minutes to read if it's something they truly wish to prioritise. It really doesn't need to be more than that, but it does need to happen daily to see rapid progress.

iwillfollowyou · 17/01/2025 06:45

It gets harder as they get older. Ds is 9 and has reading, spellings, times tables every night plus three homework sheets a week. We do it immediately after tea. But just reading I'd make it part of bed time routine

SwallowsAmazons · 17/01/2025 06:55

We always read in the car on the way to school, if we arrived a bit early. Whilst waiting for siblings at an extra curricular club.

we try and read before school. Adding in the ten mins to read after they are dressed, washed and dressed adds an element of calm between the rushing around getting ready and walking out the door.

mumbruh · 17/01/2025 07:00

For my children it's always worked better to read in the morning so after they've had breakfast and got dressed, otherwise there's times over the weekend too.

LuckysDadsHat · 17/01/2025 07:04

Before school for us. After school she just wants to relax and chill out, so before school works well for us and sets her up for the day. We do it 5 days a week and then she has the weekend off, but she will still read to herself those days or we will read her a story.

BunsenBurnerBaby · 17/01/2025 07:04

Always at bedtime. But then also anywhere when waiting- instead of a device, a book.

Overthebow · 17/01/2025 07:05

My dd in reception year reads her phonics book to me after school, or if in wrap around care we read once home whilst dinner is cooking. Then DH or I read a book to her at bedtime.

Adamante · 17/01/2025 07:05

Every night before bed, followed by a story/book of their choice read to them. They looked forward to it then.

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