Nativity

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So we are only allowed 4 tickets for the school nativity this time, we have 2 sets of grandparents that would like to go and us as a couple, so in total need 6 tickets.

How do we do this fairly?

One set of grandparents moan all the time how their son left them out of everything to do with their children, no idea if this is true or not, but in the same breath complained they had to pay to see dance shows and they were so boring. Other set of grandparents it's there first grandchildren and probably only one they will ever have, and more involved in her life.

Obviously I've asked the school if they get any cancellations please could I be on the waiting list for extra tickets.

I personally think 4 tickets is actually generous. Some schools only have 2 tickets each family. I think in your circumstances I would either just go with my dh or I'd go with one of my parents and dh could go with one of his.

You and dh plus one grandparent from each side.

DH parents will not do anything alone, think his mum has anxiety. They live 30 mins away DH mum doesn't drive.

Tell both sets it's only 2 tickets per family? Failing that they can toss a coin for it.

Well if they won't go unless they're together maybe that works in a different way?

Tell them the situation and offer one ticket. When DHs parents decline, offer your parents both?

We only used to get two, four is good

Would be much easier if there was only 2 tickets

Then that would be their choice. You can offer them one ticket and it’s up to them if Grandma, Grandad or neither of them comes.

I agree with the poster who said both parents and one grandparent from each - like your mum and his dad, or your dad and his mum.

Toss a coin to decide which one in each grandparent couple gets to go!

Just tell them there are only two.

Well then it has to be your parents surely...

This.

If the one Grandmother needs to be driven, surely the Grandfather could do that and entertain himself at your house for an hour if she feels she really wants to go?

As most families only get 2 tickets, this should be seen as a bonus that one of them also gets to go, not something to moan about.

1 set go this year, 1 go next if you can't have 1 from each side.

We only get two, solves many problems.
Id give them back if the grandparents are going to make it difficult, let someone else take their grandparents/kids/neighbours.. just don’t mention that you got four!

You and DH and the two grannies.

Maybe ask the class WhatsApp group (if you have one) if anyone has spare tickets? I would expect at least a few families wouldn’t be using all 4.

D9nt invite either set

This is what we do. Offer them the ticket and the logistics are up to them.

It's in the newsletter and one of the grandparents always reads it 😬

This would be bliss 😀 unfortunately one of the grandparents is retired and reads all the newsletters and it's at the top of the newsletter this week. Ffs

We only get 2. With nursery productions, we always used to alternate.

So quite obviously the set you want to give the tickets to are your parents 😂😂😂
There is no fair solution, school halls do not have space to fit 6 people watching per child in the show. Either say 1 grandparent from each side or none at all.

Thanks everyone for feedback. Other half has just said to forfeit his ticket so my mum and his parents can go, he said his parents won't go alone and this is the only option that he can see working 🤦‍♀️ I know I have a DH problem with his family. Then next year it will be me and him and my dad. Mum and dad divorced, and dad kind and will just go along with it. Happy families 🫠 so sad as last year we never saw it together either, I went with my parents and him with his.

@Saturdayssandwichsociety no think I'd be happy with one ticket to each set of grandparents, think that's fair regardless about how I feel about each grandparent.

You either need to have one from each side.

Or say you'll toss for it, and the set that doesn't come this year has priority for next year