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Our wedding during term time.....

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myermay · 25/04/2008 20:32

Ok we are planning to get married asap. Our infant school has a 10 day policy for holidays. It get authorised, but you do get a letter telling you that too much holiday can have effects on child at school blah blah, etc.

Anyhow, took ds out of reception fof 5 days last nov for a family holiday and now have decided to try the knot this june/july. But been looking on first choice and our chosen destination on flies from Wed to wednesday, which means he'll have to have 6 days off. Obviously this totals' to 11 days during the school year. Do you think this is an unreasonable request? afterall it is our wedding. We can not afford to go during the holidays' Just wondered whether i should check this by the school first?

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SenoraPostrophe · 25/04/2008 20:36

I think it is unreasonable actually. if you can't afford to go abroad to get married, stay at home. if you had only had one holiday this year, you probably would be able to afford it anyway wouldn't you? maybe you could afford it if you forewent the november holiday next year?

nell12 · 25/04/2008 20:37

As a teacher, I have to say effects on child blah blah blah

As a hopeless romantic, I have to say go for it, tell the school after you have booked and they should be ok.

Congratlations

FloridaKbear · 25/04/2008 20:42

It's fine - you can go straight to hell afterwards with me.

I'm taking mine out for 11 days this year - first time ever and the last for a major holiday, the like of which we won't be doing again (only Florida but huge big deal to someone who has spent the last 12 years holidaying in a tent or a caravan in the rain!!).

I weighed up all the pros and cons and even spoke to DS's teacher who agreed that we should go even though it will be unauthorised by the headteacher. Life is too short and 11 days won't stop him going to university.

Congrats on the wedding - have a wonderful time.

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myermay · 25/04/2008 20:43

We can't afford to get married abroad, however my parents have offered to pay for it. Last year was cheap caravan trip. This year we did not have any intention to go on holiday - but my parents have offered and we really want to get married privately abroad.

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SenoraPostrophe · 25/04/2008 20:47

so save up and do it next year.

SenoraPostrophe · 25/04/2008 20:48

and really, you went caravanning in the uk in november?

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myermay · 25/04/2008 20:51

Yes we went caravaning in November

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Heated · 25/04/2008 20:55

Your dc is in reception, hardly vital examinations. Yes go. As long as you're not expecting the school to make up what they've missed. In fact why not explain exactly your problem as have on here. It's a one off.

SenoraPostrophe · 25/04/2008 20:55

in the uk?

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myermay · 25/04/2008 20:57

Yes in the uk, it had central heating and was our only holiday that year.

He is in reception

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SenoraPostrophe · 25/04/2008 20:58

(the school will probably say yes btw. it just gets on my nerves when people say they "have to" go on holiday in termtime because they can't afford to do so in the hols)

RipMacWinkle · 25/04/2008 20:59

He's in reception so in the grand scheme of things - it's your wedding!

However, I would think if the school would have an issue with anything it would have be the Nov caravan holiday. But I'm guessing that's not something you'll do every year so surely they'd be ok?

nell12 · 25/04/2008 21:01

myermay, dont get pulled in to SPs argument. Speak to ds's teacher, get some reading books, maybe some pen control sheets. When you are away, take ds places, show him things he would not normally see, get him to try new foods and enjoy yourselves!

When ds returns to school, he can do a show and tell about his holiday and I guarantee you that he will have got more out of going away than not. The most he will miss in Reception in June/ July is Sports Day

Have a lovely holiday

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myermay · 25/04/2008 21:03

The November holiday was a one off as we hadn't had a holiday that year. We're not in the position to have 2 holidays a year. As i say, it's only because we want to get married ASAP, and we have been offered to have it paid for us.

We could perhaps wait until the next school year, but i'd rather take him out at the end of a term rather than the beginning.

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SenoraPostrophe · 25/04/2008 21:05

you don't have to have a holiday every year you know.

but anyway. have you looked at other companies going to the same destination?

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myermay · 25/04/2008 21:11

Yes thank you senorapostraphe, i know you don't have to have a holiday each year. We don't - infact apart from last nov, we havne't had any break away for 4 years. This isn't just a holiday, it's about marrying my childresn father. Slightly different i feel, from just taking a regualr holiday

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mecano · 25/04/2008 21:14

Just go and get married

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myermay · 25/04/2008 21:16

thanks mecano, will have a chat to his teacher next week and see what she thinks.

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LaDiDaDi · 25/04/2008 21:19

I'd go and I wouldn't give a fig what the school say tbh.

aintnomountainhighenough · 25/04/2008 21:42

Go and get married and have a fabulous time. What a great occasion for your ds, he will learn much much more than the time he misses at school. TBH I am sure your school will sign it off no problem if not just say he was sick!

oh and SP - children learn a lot more out of school than they do at school - well sometimes!

Life is for living!

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myermay · 25/04/2008 22:03

thanks of your replies, i appreciate both sides. As i said i will talk to his teacher,. Ds is a bright little boy, who is doing really well, so i have no worries about that side of things. I will not be made to feel guilty for taking him out of school for our wedding - it is something that i'm glad he is old enough to remember and be part of.

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branflake81 · 26/04/2008 20:33

My parents got married when I was in reception and I didn't even go because they didn't want me to miss school! They were both my real, blood parents.

Not saying that's what you should do though

barnical · 27/04/2008 14:11

I had a term time wedding ( june ) when DS1 was in yr 1 .. spoke to school and they were really excieted for us , said have a great time and DS1 went back to school and did show and tell all about it!.

Gobbledigook · 27/04/2008 14:16

'he will learn much much more than the time he misses at school'

Why do people keep saying this - it's such rubbish. WHy don't we all just forget school then and just holiday all year if the kids will learn far more?

This is not in response to this particular thread - just this point pops up so often and may be true for some holidays but not for most lazing about holidays I don't think.

Gobbledigook · 27/04/2008 14:17

Really, you shouldn't be taking any time out of school and you've already taken him out for a week this year.

It's up to you, I guess it probably won't do him much harm but it's not something I would do. You do have a choice about when you get married so it doesn't have to be in term time does it?

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