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Our wedding during term time.....

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myermay · 25/04/2008 20:32

Ok we are planning to get married asap. Our infant school has a 10 day policy for holidays. It get authorised, but you do get a letter telling you that too much holiday can have effects on child at school blah blah, etc.

Anyhow, took ds out of reception fof 5 days last nov for a family holiday and now have decided to try the knot this june/july. But been looking on first choice and our chosen destination on flies from Wed to wednesday, which means he'll have to have 6 days off. Obviously this totals' to 11 days during the school year. Do you think this is an unreasonable request? afterall it is our wedding. We can not afford to go during the holidays' Just wondered whether i should check this by the school first?

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BreevandercampLGJ · 27/04/2008 14:23

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Fimbo · 27/04/2008 14:34

I guess it will be too late to try and book something during May half-term?

We are going away for 2 weeks then, dd will have 6 days off school, but they are having a recycling week, the week she is off, so is not missing any course work as such.

Gobbledigook · 27/04/2008 15:08

Hellooo! I don't know - I don't think she's on MN at the moment.

I'm only really on because I'm working and it just makes it more bearable!

Grav1 · 27/04/2008 17:55

If the school are happy for you to take your dc out of reception class then go for it. I have done it in the past and we made up a scrapbook of places we visited and things that we did while we were away. Dd then took it into school and showed it to everybody. They were all impressed. Good luck with the plans and for the wedding itself.

LittleB · 28/04/2008 13:38

Hi Myermay, how are you, remember me from the due in may05 thread!? And congratulations! I'd take him out, its only reception and only 6 days, chat to the teacher and see if you can get some work sheets, but he'll be fine. Lucky you for parents paying for you to get married abroad, I hope you have a lovely time. We got married a couple of years ago in a registry office in cornwall, it was lovely, but dd slept through the whole thing, woke up for ice cream on the beach afterwards though!

meemar · 28/04/2008 13:45

Hi myermay - I don't think your request is unreasonable.

Just as a practical issue though, are you inviting other people with children? They may not wish to take their children out of school so you may be restricting who can come to your wedding.

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myermay · 28/04/2008 19:19

no it was just going to be us

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meemar · 29/04/2008 12:58

In that case I would go for it. You are only talking about 1 unauthorised day off, and he is in reception.

Have a lovely wedding and congratulations

ThingOne · 29/04/2008 13:19

It's one extra day and it's reception I'd do it even if they attempt to say no, tbh. It's not going to be a regular thing and I agree that it's better at the end of the year than the start of the next.

My sister's a primary teacher and she certainly agrees that holidays like this (not just "we wanted to go somewhere we couldn't afford in holiday time") are no problem for children in infants. As long as you don't expect the teacher to provide extra work for your child.

treelover · 29/04/2008 13:23

this happened to me when ds was in reception. as we did not have any plans to go anywhere i rather stupidly put two separate days down as annual leave. one to go to chessington, and one when my parents flew in from abroad. then we arranged to go stay with my parents abroad for the summer. i called and asked the school if it was ok togo two weekends before as i could get much much much cheaper tickets. the lady i spoke to said fine, no problem
the head later, after i had spent the money, had a go at me.

treelover · 29/04/2008 13:24

oh, and i have since learned my lesson. the dc wee 'ill' for four days before christmas holidays last year. it meant a saving of 700 pounds.

FYIAD · 29/04/2008 13:26

I think its a bit much tbh. whats wrong with getting married in the UK? I mean you can get married anytime, why not wait? or do it in the half term holiday?

NotABanana · 29/04/2008 13:27

You could get married privately in this country without your son having to miss school.

FYIAD · 29/04/2008 13:28

any more than 10 days unauthorised and our school dobs you in btw

treelover · 29/04/2008 13:32

yes, but if you write a letter to the school saying your child was absent becasue they were feeling ill with a headcold, sinus etc, what are they going to do? call you a liar?

the op sounds perfectlyl reasonable to me. but then, i always send my kids to school, unless they have a high temperature, unlike a great many people i know who keep the kids off school for a tummy ache.

as the senco explained to me when ds was in year one, having been abroad for the third time that year, he was having an education, just slightly different to that in the curriculum. (he wasnt having beach holidays)

LittleB · 29/04/2008 15:39

FYIAD can they actually 'dob you in' for missing school in reception, lots of children don't even actually have to do reception if their parents wanted to as they don't legally have to go to school until they turn 5, depends on birthdays etc I know, but I was thinking of taking dd out for a week in her reception year in a couple of years time as I didn't think she even had to be there. Let me know if I'm wrong though.

meemar · 29/04/2008 15:56

I don't understand the 'why not get married in the UK?' responses. This is their wedding. A once in a lifetime experience. It's how they want to get married and it will probably cost twice as much to do in the school holidays.

I personally don't think it's worth changing such important plans to avoid a reception age child having one day of unauthorised absence.

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myermay · 29/04/2008 20:02

We don't want to get married in the UK, we want the guarenteed weather, which i know will get overseas. We want to go to a place that is special to us and not a registry office that means nothing to us. I guess there is no rush at all, however, we will not be doing it in the holiday as it costs so much more, it's a rip off

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