Advice about Year One dd being excluded/bullied by one girl

[sillytilly]

I'm so worried and upset - been chatting to dd about school tonight and she has just said

"X says I am not allowed to play with her gang OR Y and her gang now that Y's gang is part of her gang"

so, dd is basically, by one girl, excluded from playing with about 2/3 of the girls in the class

I have twice complained about this girl before, and they have had a word with the class about not being in gangs etc, but I really do feel this is bullying and don't know what to do next.

can someone advise me, pelase? this can't continue, can it?

thanks Attila

fortunately dd is only at this school for another year, so will be moving away from this girl, but I don't want this to happen for the next year, obviously

what should the school be doing now? the teacher is supportive but newly-qualified and really not that strict.

oh, and the school's response last week was to speak to the girl, keep her in at playtime and write note to parents about it

I think the mother is aware that the daughter is "bossy"

I would be inclined to write in the book that dd and her friend were excluded from playing and also that dd got shouted at by child x when they were lining up. The school are then aware of the incidents and it is up to them to do something about it. Maybe you could gently try and persuade dd to tell somebody if and when something happens. Maybe an old child that she feels comfortable with. I know it is difficult and i sympathise. Have you spoken about this to any of the other parents with children in the class? If so have any of their dc's got problems with the child concerned?

"older Child"

thanks Grav - I veer from getting really upset and stressed about it to thinking dd is pretty happy generally so shouldn't worry too much.... gah!

thanks for the advice - think reading book good idea. difficult re speaking to other parents as X's mum is on the PTA and very sort of revered really - and in a big clique too!

but teacher said she was well aware of X's character, so maybe there have been other incidents....

have written in reading book outlining what happened and asking for a meeting but am now stressing is OTT to do so! argh!