people who post their kids school report on facebook

[itsnotcominghom]

Why do this ? It's so so cringey, attention seeking and embarrassing for the child as they grow up.

Someone in my kids class has done this (they do it every year), gushing how proud they are.

I noticed a couple of common phrases used that appear in my kids report so i'm sure the teachers aren't best pleased with it being put all over social media !

There are also a few "teacher euphemisms" in the report which the parent has obviously perceived positively but are actually not that positive !!

And before anyone says it, i'm not jealous...my child got a fantastic report both in terms of their academics and behaviour. I told their grandparents about it and I'm very proud of them, i just don't in any way see why it's appropriate to post the actual report online !

@BodyKeepingScore not once in her original post, did OP mention privacy for kids. It was a dig.
I get it. It can be cringey, but why should it be cringey. We should celebrate and be proud. Lots of people do that in different ways.

@itsnotcominghom please can you post in the school WhatsApp group- because I would genuinely find that hilarious. As contrary as I've been this evening 🤪

I used to have a couple of people that did this.
Only thing was that the reports weren't as positive as they thought they were. They stopped posting them after a particularly pointed one, so I assume someone translated it for them.

Although I prefer them to the false modesty you get here. "My dc has got 120 in all their SATS results and the teacher has put them as exceeding expectations, but I really don't know, because I have no idea about SATS. Are they any good?"

I did share party on dd3’s once but it was the bit she’d written. They asked what she enjoyed most and she said “the dressing up corner” then they asked her what she found tricky, she said “nothing really because I’m actually very clever!” 😂 dd was 4 and the youngest in the year. I just found it really funny and shared with close friends and family. where mums share the report feeling proud etc they usually have the impression their dc is better than everyone else’s. It’s a bit delusional ime but I’m happy they’re happy. I’ve seen worse stuff shared.

Why does everyone read it though? What on earth does it mean to you?

I had a mum who shared my very average school reports with relatives. It’s awful. I was lucky that we got straight info about DDs. I didn’t need to read between the lines. Nor did I share it. Who else cares if you are proud or shocked? It’s delusional to think friends care.

Does anyone post really awful reports? Do they post when dc get excluded? It’s hugely selective info to boost insecure people.

Before smartphones I knew a bloke who printed out his pre-schooler's report and carried it round with him everywhere just so he could show you if you bumped into him. He just got carried away I guess, but dear oh dear.

Doesn't bother me. I share the odd thing but not reports. My friendship group asked about SATs I hadn't shared them myself. I don't mind when friends share the report's and think it's nice they are proud.

We can celebrate our children and be proud of them without sharing every document or moment related to their life online. My own teens and their peers would be horrified to find that their school reports had been shared online. It’s not about whether it’s “cringe” it’s about our children’s rights to privacy and respect for their views on whether they’d want those details shared online.

No one I know does this. It's cringy. Even with ds1 I never posted anything you could read. |Just said "success" after A'levels. I only told my mum his grades. I never told anyone outside our family what his exact grades were. Not their business. I might have said oh he missed out on the grade above by x marks, shall we ask for a remark, but nothing more than that.

with ds2 I tell my png that he got a few 'coastings' and that I've told him he needs to 'up his game'. smile

There is someone in my extended family who has always been like this. We are subjected to detailed and frequent updates on everything her children do and it's pretty irritating. However, she's got a difficult life in lots of ways and not a lot of positive things to share so I grin and bear it.
Personally whilst I do post about my kids on social media I tend to restrict myself to stuff like being proud of their efforts or that have got the results needed to progress to their desired next stage which is after all what really matters. With the possible exception of grandparents I don't expect anyone to be interested in the minutiae of my children's results and I have zero interest in engaging in online comparisons with other parents.I think such behaviour is often driven by insecurity so I usually reply with something fairly neutral like "glad they're doing well" for the school reports or "looks like lots of fun" for the hobby updates.

Anything to avoid actually interacting with your kid. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I bet these are the same parents who post school videos and pictures on FB after being told by staff not to for safeguarding issues.

Ive been to school performances where staff have told parents absolutely no one can record due to safeguarding and they have teachers recording next to the stage to ensure parents get videos, but there’ll still be people recording.

I keep seeing that the reports are written in code to sound more positive. Is there any value in them then? Not planning on sharing them on social media!

I have one who regularly posts that her child has got 'star of the week' ..yep Zoe, they all get that during the year..
'sitting nicely in circle time'
'good listening' etc certificates..Zoe, little Alfie, is the class PITA, it's obvious, he is not the class genius..
waiting for his report..I'm sure it will be online this week..

@Linille Most schools have a computer program to generate the appropriate phrases. It’s obvious no teacher would write that your child is equivalent to a monster, so the positive is sought plus what they can do to improve further. It’s not a code, it’s just not being blunt. Most dc have some good points. Sharing all of this is definitely cringe though!

@wastingtimeonhere Why do you bother reading this rubbish? Just delete. If this person is just a random mum, do you really care?

The common term at the moment seems to be that they are ‘smashing it’ or have ‘smashed it’. And ‘sooo proud!!!’ Often with a comment about how they did this despite staggering into school with a broken leg/cholera/dodging snipers etc etc. Makes me cringe. Saw one post of the report and the SATs result and one score was a 90… wasn’t sure whether to be pleased the parent was still proud of them as it makes a change from the ‘all greater depth!’ posts or whether the parent didn’t get the grading.

I know somebody like this. Everything is about her kids. Her whole life is her kids.
Each to their own, but I do sometimes wonder how she'll feel when her kids get older and fly the nest, and all those days are gone.

One parent at our school put in the WhatsApp group their child got 90 ... she thought it meant 90 %

Don’t schools explain sats? Maybe just ignore what people post.