people who post their kids school report on facebook

[itsnotcominghom]

Why do this ? It's so so cringey, attention seeking and embarrassing for the child as they grow up.

Someone in my kids class has done this (they do it every year), gushing how proud they are.

I noticed a couple of common phrases used that appear in my kids report so i'm sure the teachers aren't best pleased with it being put all over social media !

There are also a few "teacher euphemisms" in the report which the parent has obviously perceived positively but are actually not that positive !!

And before anyone says it, i'm not jealous...my child got a fantastic report both in terms of their academics and behaviour. I told their grandparents about it and I'm very proud of them, i just don't in any way see why it's appropriate to post the actual report online !

I added the part about not working despite not having any childcare to do between 9-3, because someone suggested up post they might not have much else going on and therefore the school report is a major aspect of their week/month.

I know someone like this and it’s literally been the only stuff she’s posted on fb in the last decade. Children’s achievements. School reports, sports day wins, exam results when they got older; uni acceptance, judo belts, piano exams. Never anything about herself, or just stuff in general. It’s like a kids boast fest.

@itsnotcominghom I work. School reports is still a big part of my day/week 🙄

We once had a report that was word for word identical to DS’s friend’s. The teacher had even forgotten to change the name in one paragraph when she’d copied and pasted…

I love a teacher euphemism

“ DS has matured a lot this year” = “DS used to be an insufferable idiot but is now bearable.” 🤣

I'm guessing you're a fellow post your kids report on facebook then ?

I sent dc report to ex and my immediate family WhatsApp group.

I'm not a fan of people for whom being a parent is their whole personality.
We all love our kids and think they're fantastic.... do the people who post all this stuff think we don't care cos we don't post it on facebook at every opportunity?!

@itsnotcominghom no I don't. And I don't feel inclined too. But I don't care about those who do post

I didn't start this post to be deliberately horrible, more to gauge if other people agree with me and find it really cringey and an invasion of privacy.

If everyone disagreed with me then I would take that on board and try to be more open minded....but most people seem to agree...

also plenty of people have given examples of reports being "copy and paste" to some extent, demonstrating that the thing they are boasting about is not even specific to the child

@itsnotcominghom why do you care what or why other people post on fb? Scroll by and ignore.

Please keep the teacher euphemisms coming

I do agree with you OP and think that it’s cringey.

However rather than let it piss me off, I try and just think how lovely that the parent is so proud (Even if they are a bit clueless when it comes to ‘teacher speak’)
I’d rather see that they’re a proud devoted parent who values their child doing ‘well’ at school, than someone who couldn’t care less and can’t even muster one word of encouragement for their children (unfortunately I know a few parents like that!)

plus it’s preferable to people writing statuses or public messages to dead relatives on Facebook (I’m sure it helps people process grief but i just think it’s so stupid)

It makes me laugh when it’s written as if it’s directed to the kid, even when they’re not on fb as they’re 6yo. “Oh well done darling son on your excellent report, we are so proud of you that Mrs x said blah blah blah.”.

Yeah don’t get me started on the “happy heavenly birthday”. Your dead dad ain’t reading it.

I don't care, it's not having a big affect on my life, I just saw it, thought it's really cringey and wanted to know if others agree - they do. I can't exactly post about it on the class whatsapp

I’m just curious, my school reports would say I was ‘quiet with a strong personality’ - should I take this as opinionated? Or having courage of conviction 😄 was very into environmentalism, feminism and politics even at primary with no family encouragement.

Eagerly awaiting Ds school report which still isn’t out yet…

Agree with everything you’ve said!

Teacher euphemisms:
starting to make progress = not really but we have to say something that sounds ok
lively = pita
a pleasure to teach = a pleasure to teach - I only write this when I mean it!

Ooh have you got any more please I’d like to prepare myself, might go and have a nose on Facebook to see what I can decode too

Or maybe OP recognises that most children wouldn't want their private information being blasted all over social media...like most sane people

@itsnotcominghom The schools use IT programs for the reports. They aren’t lovingly crafted for each dc in every aspect.

Yes, it’s cringeworthy. Sadly I have friends who do the same with their husbands’ successes! The solution - don’t have a Facebook account. It makes life much easier. If anyone actually wants to speak to me, as a human being, they have my number!

DS got a genuinely brilliant report and me and DH are so proud of him. I wouldn't post it online though - we've told grandparents.

Totally understand this and in my profession we also use templates and adapt them.

The point i was making was that I realise this and I get the euphemisms and I
not so blindsided to think that my kid is perfect. The person who posted the report clearly doesn't get this by the way they were gushing.

I completely agree with this!

"Lively/energetic" = disruptive. Spends Maths trying to escape out of the window

"Sometimes finds it difficult to stay in his seat" = his bum is never on his seat. It's always half way out of the window.

"Is continuing to work on staying away from windows" = is literally not improving but we continue telling him every day

"Prefers working independently" = has fallen out with everyone on his table. In fact last week I intercepted a note that said "if anyone else uses this pritt stick I'll throw you out of the window"

"Has a good sense of humour and enjoys making his peers laugh" = disrupts the class which is really annoying when trying to teach fractions but at least he's got friends to play with and at least is not trying to jump out of the window.

"Is starting to understand the importance of sharing and would benefit from continuing to practice this at school and at home" = Two weeks last Thursday he temporarily ceased his reign of terror in the home corner. While you continue to tell him at home to "take what he can get because the losers get left behind" we may be facing an uphill battle.

I'm joking and exaggerating. But generally things like "is starting to" or "is learning" or "sometimes manages to" when used for social and emotional skills rather than a clear statement about how they've improved generally means it's an ongoing struggle.