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tiredmumma90 · 2024-02-07T21:23:03+00:00

So, I've been stewing over this since yesterday and the more I think about it the more it's really annoying me... I have a DD (3 years old) in Nursery and another daughter in year 2. Nursery finishes earlier than the other years in school so by the time I've collected my younger DD and gone down to collect my other DD my younger 1 needs the toilet and always goes into year 2 to use their toilets. The teachers now have decided they are going to stop her from using them. Yesterday she needed to go and was refused entry of the building resulting in her wetting herself in front of people then had to walk to the car in wet clothes cos stupidly I forgot to pack her spare clothing. Surely they can't stop her from using toilets can they? They don't know if she has any health problems - which she doesn't but still it's not the point!! Should I complain to the head of year? It's basic human rights to use toilets when needed! Help needed TIA

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AmyandPhilipfan · 08/02/2024 19:54

I can definitely understand teachers being annoyed if pretty much every day they see your older one out only for her to appear again with little sister in tow to use the toilets. They'll probably still be seeing kids out to late arriving parents, they might have children to take to an after school club, they might have a child they need to take to wait in the office, they might have a parent waiting to speak to them about something important, they might have a staff meeting starting in 5 minutes' time, they might have a mountain of marking to get through, and all sorts of other possibilities. But instead every day they have these two little girls to keep an eye on, chivvy along and make sure they get back to you before the doors are locked. And no it might not be a massive effort for them but if it's happening every day it will be irritating and an inconvenience.

spanieleyes · 08/02/2024 20:00

AmyandPhilipfan · 08/02/2024 19:54

I can definitely understand teachers being annoyed if pretty much every day they see your older one out only for her to appear again with little sister in tow to use the toilets. They'll probably still be seeing kids out to late arriving parents, they might have children to take to an after school club, they might have a child they need to take to wait in the office, they might have a parent waiting to speak to them about something important, they might have a staff meeting starting in 5 minutes' time, they might have a mountain of marking to get through, and all sorts of other possibilities. But instead every day they have these two little girls to keep an eye on, chivvy along and make sure they get back to you before the doors are locked. And no it might not be a massive effort for them but if it's happening every day it will be irritating and an inconvenience.

Especially as the younger child has only just left nursery and the toilets! Of course it can happen but, when it happens regularly, then you are just taking the piss, literally!

surreygirl1987 · 09/02/2024 07:27

Wow, the negativity on this post is something else.

To be fair, you asked questions in your OP. People are answering your questions. You don't seem to like the answers, but you did ask for opinions!

I agree with the majority - I am not surprised that the school doesn't want a 3 year old frequently going into the school (unaccompanied by an adult). You need to find a way of getting her to go at nursery. Or you could get one of those travel potties ao she has an alternative option.

Sherrystrull · 09/02/2024 07:36

AmyandPhilipfan · 08/02/2024 19:54

I can definitely understand teachers being annoyed if pretty much every day they see your older one out only for her to appear again with little sister in tow to use the toilets. They'll probably still be seeing kids out to late arriving parents, they might have children to take to an after school club, they might have a child they need to take to wait in the office, they might have a parent waiting to speak to them about something important, they might have a staff meeting starting in 5 minutes' time, they might have a mountain of marking to get through, and all sorts of other possibilities. But instead every day they have these two little girls to keep an eye on, chivvy along and make sure they get back to you before the doors are locked. And no it might not be a massive effort for them but if it's happening every day it will be irritating and an inconvenience.

This is spot on. Staff straight after school are rushing round doing many things. We don't have endless staff free to hang around for five minutes. One offs are fine but regularly would be a no. I have meetings that start 10 minutes after the school day finishes. By the time I take children to after school club and the office I have two minutes to go to the toilet before the meeting.

10ThousandSpoons · 09/02/2024 07:42

Until she's a pupil at the school I can understand their stance. They don't let members of the public use the school loos.

You need to work on getting her to go before she leaves nursery