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omg dd got in terrible trouble at school today and im the outcast mother

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 15:25

book day dd went as a cat. her friend went to pull ehr tail in the dinner queue. dd turned and scratched her friend "like cats do" - friend now has a 3 inch long scratch on her throat. headteacher was there and dealt with it and she spoke to me in the playground at the bell (oh the shame)

i couldnt apologise enough to the mother and dd said sorry about a hundred times. but i know hte mother is very annoyed and i m so ashamed

dd went straight to her room - ive told erh she cnat go to a classmates birthday party on sunday - should i stick with that?

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 15:58

you lot are a bunch of softies

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Butkin · 06/03/2008 15:58

You may be storing up problems for the future if you relent on the party.

We're careful about threatened punishments because we always carry them through and both parents hold this line even if they would like to soften.

If you've said no to the party then stick to it - but perhaps do something nice instead if she has been good - otherwise she won't take your threats seriously in the future.

brimfull · 06/03/2008 15:59

at least she didn't spit

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 15:59

yes i know butkin, thats what i was thinking would be a problem

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belgo · 06/03/2008 15:59

yes, but it's not a threat, it's a punishment. And for some children, punishments are unnecessary as they are naturally remorseful.

It's not like she's going to do it again is it!

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 16:02

no idont think she would do it again

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prettybird · 06/03/2008 16:03

Ds got bitten hard by another wee boy when he was in P1. Wee boy got into big trouble and althugh school wouldn't tell us who it was (although ds did! ) the mum was mortified anddesparate to approach us and say sorry. We told her that these things happen - and that no lasting harm was done.

It's a shame the mum still seems to be annoyed. These things do happen. They are only kids ffs.

HenriettaHippo · 06/03/2008 16:04

nailpolish, I thought it was going to be really dreadful from your title! I have 2 comments:

  1. be thankful that she didn't dig a hole and poo on the school field. Or decapitate a mouse with her teeth. Or try to walk along a 6ft high fence. All cat-like behaviours. Sounds like dd just got a bit carried away, and her friend was bating her.
  1. what was the teacher doing making comments about other misdemeanours when she was talking to you? (you mentioned her saying something about dd taking things from teachers' desks?). I think that is totally unacceptable. I hate it when parents, or teachers, or anyone in charge of children, brings other "crimes" into a discussion about a totally unrelated incident. If I were you, I might be having a word about that....
DualCycloneCod · 06/03/2008 16:05

she was in role.

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 16:05

i am kind of used to children squabbling you know? having 2 close in age etc. i dont think other mum is though. not that that makes any difference

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Twiglett · 06/03/2008 16:06

friend's mother needs to get over herself IMHO

You should let her go to the party

DualCycloneCod · 06/03/2008 16:06

i once was haule din when ds1 broke a huge winodw at school and showed little remorse.
i htink hsi teacher hated him tbh.

HenriettaHippo · 06/03/2008 16:06

oh, and I would let her go to the party. It sounds like she's really upset, and won't do it again.

Ignore the other mum. It's been dealt with. Perhaps she could have a discussion with her dd about not torturing other creatures by pulling their tails incessantly?

I appear to have become quite outraged on your behalf. sorry!

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 16:07

henrietta i know what yo mean. i wanted to say "whats that got to do wiht it?" but i didnt

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DualCycloneCod · 06/03/2008 16:07

( hated him because int he thing she said" oh and yes he is so competitive that pepoepl wont pair wiht him in pe")
i mean HOW unnecessary was that to bung that in in a hting baout windows.
it was at t he peak of his competitive immaturity streak.

Twiglett · 06/03/2008 16:07

7 year old boy bit my DS so hard that it left a huge bruise for a week (I was even called by school about it)

I was narked, mother apologised and made her DS apologise (again) I asked her in for coffee .. end of

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 16:07

henrieeta its good to have yo on my side

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collision · 06/03/2008 16:08

It could have been so much worse NP.....she could have sprayed wee all over the friend!!

she was in roleplay

ds2 was a cat today and kept 'scratching' ds1....just didnt leave a mark!

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 16:08

oh no, cod - whats that got to with window???

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Lazycow · 06/03/2008 16:10

I always think stopping a child from going to a party is not a good punishment as it often punishes the child who's birthday it is (especially if they have only invited a few children or are best friends with your child etc.) and they didn't have anything to do with it.

I think it sounds like an accident and she sounds sorry so I wouldn't punish any more than she has been already but if I wanted to do something else I'd choose something that didn't affect another child as well.

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 16:10

im away to speak to her again. perhaps with a milkshake.

she is v quiet up there...

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DualCycloneCod · 06/03/2008 16:13

nailey
she is on a dirty protest

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 16:17

she was doing her homework

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Cam · 06/03/2008 17:14

And as a reward for good behaviour, she can go to the party

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 17:22

i have a pta meeting next week and ohter mum is on pta too. i bet she sits beside the head

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