Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Primary education

Join our Primary Education forum to discuss starting school and helping your child get the most out of it.

Flip

1 2 3

Original poster

DC soiled self first day at school

58 replies

lolasandy · 06/09/2023 21:42

If it was nursery I wouldn't have batted an eye lid but for some reason it's really upset me!

DC is nearly 5 so one of the oldest in reception. Should really be past that sort of thing and usually is.

Was late on potty training (age 3) but decided herself to come out of nappies and then no problems. Often has phases of wetting herself a lot for a few days (usually just can't be bothered to go) but on the whole is fine. Usually refuses to admit she needs a poo and waits til the last possible moment to go, but has never soiled herself at nursery and has only 'a little bit' at home whilst rushing to the toilet too late.

Apparently it wasn't a big deal according to the teacher. DC didn't seem too phased but did say tonight she cried in the toilet and wanted me there. Another child fetched the teacher for her. Then the teacher changed her.

I just feel upset for her that it happened on her first day, whether other kids will comment or say anything nasty and don't want her to get a complex. But equally want her to learn to go to the flipping toilet earlier. Is this something that is normal(ish) in reception??? Will she just shake it off and it be forgotten?

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Yogirl1 · 07/09/2023 10:54

meant to say she hasn't had an accident at school since Early Years but as you can see new surroundings, not knowing to insist that they need to go asap, knowing there is only one loo, mean it can happen at any time. They are not just leaning to control bladder/bowels they are also on a learning curve about being assertive and that sometimes a loo may not be immediately available!

Sprogonthetyne · 07/09/2023 11:05

All the other kids will be far more worried about their own first day, then anything another kid did. Give it a few weeks and even your DD won't remember or care.

caringcarer · 07/09/2023 11:45

Wellhellother · 06/09/2023 23:34

It appears I am going against the grain here but in DD class it would be noticed by the other students. There is one child I'm DD class who last year ( in reception) had an accident and who had to have the teacher regularly check her. I, and other parents are aware of who it is because the children have commented on it being 'like a baby' - and no we don't discuss it but it has been brought up by the children when talking about that girl. I don't know what has been said to the child's face but it has certainly been noticed. I don't think it is beneficial for you to think that is definitely the end of it with the other children because it may not be the case

I agree with this. Some DC are more observant than others. Plus some might smell poo if it happens in the classroom. Years and years ago my DD came home saying a particular girl had weed in the classroom. I bet if I asked now she'd still remember the girl's name.

anxiousatnight · 07/09/2023 12:14

My DS pulled his pants and shorts down on the playing field and did a poo in reception once. In front of all the parents and children at pick up time. He's in year 2 now and people are still speaking to us so obviously no one's that bothered.

I think I started a thread on here about it as I was so mortified. We all laugh about it regularly now.

In his defence, it wasn't long after covid so there had been a lot of wild wees, although I don't think I ever said it was ok to crap outside

anxiousatnight · 07/09/2023 12:15

My point was, don't worry, kids do things sometimes and everyone just forgets. She'll be fine.

Abouttimemum · 07/09/2023 12:24

I’m 100% sure this will happen to my DS as he just holds on to it until it’s literally coming out. I’m not hugely bothered by an accident, but I worry incessantly that he’ll always be leaking / small soils and will stink all the time and all the other kids will think he’s smelly and call him names and he’ll have no friends until the end of time 😂 yep that level of anxiety.

MikeWozniaksMohawk · 07/09/2023 12:27

Very very normal, OP. And the kids probably won’t even remember the next day. They can barely remember anyone’s name for ages never mind incidents like that that don’t directly affect them. I know it’s horrible to think she was upset and wanted you but try not to dwell on it.

SignsOfWeakness · 07/09/2023 12:36

I remember my now teenager wet himself in assembly once (reception). It was an assembly where parents could go in and I saw it all happen.

I was very embarrassed but the staff were relaxed about it all. I felt particularly bad for the child sitting next to him who also got wet. Not very pleasant for anyone!

I suppose it's a consequence of our starting children so young in a formal setting. 5 is still very young.

Flip

1 2 3