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Earrings in School

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typhoonsmum · 19/02/2008 19:54

My DD (5) had her ears pierced in the half term. After they were done I found out that the school doesn't allow children to have earrings in at all.
I have given them a disclaimer stating I wouldn't blame them for any accident she had that hurt her ears and told them I would take them out after the first six weeks had past but I was called to the headteacher today and told that the board of governors want me to take them out.
I tried to take them out this evening and managed to get one out and she screamed the place down. She even started to hyperventilating. To stop them closing up I put the stud back in intending to take them out before school tommorrow but I am in work for the rest of the week and my MIL is taking her to school. I can't ask her to take the studs out when I know she'll react like that.
Any suggestion on how to approach these. Will her ears close up in the six hours she is in school.(It was hard enough to get them in after 5 minutes out)

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misdee · 19/02/2008 19:58

yes they will probably close up within 6 hours.

Trifle · 19/02/2008 20:01

God is it really necessary for her to wear earrings at 5 years old. Cant you just take them out and have it re-done in 7 years when it would be a much more appropriate age. Are you really going to take them out each morning and replace them after every school day? Madness

posieflump · 19/02/2008 20:01

your poor dd
I would just take them out and leave it at that
she can always have them pierced again when she is older and able to make a more informed decision

sherby · 19/02/2008 20:03

I'd take them out.

If this is school policy its not like she will be in any kind of minority not having earrings in.

And I doubt that at 5 she will be bothered about being without them.

Hulababy · 19/02/2008 20:03

I would take them out and leave them out. f she really does have to have them done at this age leave it until the siz week's holiday.

It is very common for primary schools to have a complete ban on earrings.

corblimeymadam · 19/02/2008 20:05

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misdee · 19/02/2008 20:08

i caught one of my earrings this morning o na towel. didnt tear but it bloody well hurt.

rachaelsara · 19/02/2008 20:37

5 is very young to have her ears pierced. If the studs are hurting her why don't you take them out and leave them out? Why would you hurt her for vanity? My Mum always said it hurts to be beautiful, but ffs!

grendel · 19/02/2008 20:45

Why did you do this to her in the first place?
Take them out.
Wait until she's old enough to make the decision for herself, and look after her piercings herself until they heal. And until she's old enough to have stopped doing all those rough childish games in which earrings are likely to get caught.

Hulababy · 19/02/2008 20:49

I still remember a friend of mine at school tearing her ear open with her earring. We were in middle school so she would have been about 8 or 9 I guess. We were playing int he playground and someone ran past her and knoked her, she fell and caught her earring on he corner of a bench in the playgrund. Ripped the earring through her lobe completely. Was horrid.

MsPontipine · 19/02/2008 21:00

Don't keep putting them in and taking them out - you are risking them getting infected then they're going to really hurt her.

Any decent piercer would remove them safely for you.

The ban on ear-rings in schools is understandable - the're still tumbling around together like puppies at their age - why risk ripped lobes??

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typhoonsmum · 19/02/2008 21:01

She has been looking after them herself, under supervision, and doing very well. They didn't hurt her until I had to take them out. I had many friends who had studs in their ears at school and I DIDN'T SEE ONE ACCIDENT. I wasn't going to get her ears pierced till she was a lot older but she had been on at me for months about it and she has been very mature and grown up. Many cultures have earrings in children much younger than 5 and no-one bats an eyelid so will you all please get off you're moral high ground

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Hulababy · 19/02/2008 21:04

So what is it you want answering?

Will they heal up in 6 hours at School? Possibly yes.

Should the school back down and allow your DD to wear them with your disclaimer?
IMO no, they have a rule and it is for all pupils to adhere to.

What would I do?
Remove the earrings and let them heal over.

VictorianSqualor · 19/02/2008 21:19

If its the school policy theres not much you can do I'm afraid, I thought it was normal to be allwoed to wear them just not during PE?
At DD's school they ahve to have aplaster over them during PE. Can you not see if you can compromise with the plaster option until they have healed?

posieflump · 19/02/2008 21:21

a 5 year old on at you for months about it? Blimey, my mum just said not until we were teenagers at that was that, we put up and shut up.

MsPontipine · 19/02/2008 21:21

Didn't find you any ears but here's a nice picture of a piercing that was continually taken in and out.

finish your tea first!!

I love piercings and at one time I had about 22 all over including ears but imo on a small child it just looks seriously wrong and rather tacky.

WallOfSilence · 19/02/2008 21:25

The OP asked if the ears will close in six hours.... not a lecture or anyones opinion on whether or not she should have gotten them pierced.

In reply, yes they probably will close up during six hours & if it's the school rules then you must adhere to them.

In my dds school there are no rules specifically to earrings, just says "Jewellery should not be worn" I guess this applies across the board.

pooka · 19/02/2008 21:32

PLaster impractical - can you imagine reception teacher and TA putting multiple plasters on every PE lesson. It takes them long enough just to get the little ones to get changed and back in their own uniform, let alone worrying about jewellery.

If it's the school rule I cannot see what choice you have but to take the earrings out and let the holes heal up. If you are that dead set on earrings then wait until the 6 week summer hols, but aware that you will have to remove earrings every morning before school.

rachaelsara · 19/02/2008 21:35

My 5 year old is on at me to buy her a pony!

posieflump · 19/02/2008 21:37

exactly - ponies yes earrings no!!

Sidge · 19/02/2008 21:39

Please don't put young children in jewellery at all - I used to work in A&E and have seen some hideous injuries caused by earrings, necklaces and bracelets.

They are a lot more common than you might think.

I would take them out, let them heal up and if you really want to, let her get them done when she's much older and do it at the end of the summer term so they have the whole summer holiday to heal.

SSSandy2 · 19/02/2008 21:40

This reminds me last year there was a 6 year old in dd's class who had pierced ears. The dm was told the studs need to be covered with cellotape for pt (that was just one day a week) so the dm said she put cellotape over the studs on the morning of that day and removed it later (if it hadn't fallen off presumably). On the other days I don't think there was any problem with her dd wearing studs. They were small and very flat.

SSSandy2 · 19/02/2008 21:42

I suppose if you are feeling really annoyed about the school's response, you could just imagine how awful you'd feel IF she did come home with a torn ear lobe.

clam · 19/02/2008 22:17

I suspect that the disclaimer you gave to the school would count for nothing in the event of anything awful happening. Also, the perceived potential 'danger' is not just to your child, but to others. Unlikely, I grant you, but schools err on the side of caution these days. My DD (9), regularly pipes up with the 'Can I have my ears pierced?' routine (because apparently everybody else has theirs done!) and gets the same answer each time. No. I invited her to watch a small boy having one of his done in Claire's Accessories recently. His screams of pain have shut her up on the subject for the time being.

Christywhisty · 19/02/2008 23:34

Having spent 2 hours in a&e with my DD (9 then) last summer because her nearly pierced earring got caught on a towell and got pulled backwards into the ear and was lodged inside the earlobe, I would say let them close up and do it when she is older.

She had them done on the last day of the summer term so they would heal before she went back to school. The nurses spent an hour trying to get the earring out, I felt so guilty as there were other children who needed the gas and air and it was being wasted on my DD.She got herself into a really terrible state.

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