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Unfair scholarship

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Pegaroo · 24/04/2022 07:59

So, I’m using you as a place to vent…I think I might be being unreasonable but I see this as unfair.

my children are at an independent school. It’s not a school that will set the world alight but it has small classes and I feel me children are seen.

For a little context to afford school I have reduced the size of my house, changed cars, gone back to work and will be sacrificing holidays for quite some time. My choice and I do this willingly and I see the value…..this bit isn’t the issue.

i feel let down with the way way is chucking around scholarships and bursary’s to preferred families without there being any competitive process. this has been happening for a while and it hasn’t bothered me so much. But the latest story involves a family whose oldest child has attended the school for 1 year and whose father has been removed from the home.

it appears that this child and its sibling(not even started school yet) have been given school life scholarships…..such a huge some of money . In my mind there are 1000s of children in poor circumstances without even 1 parent who cares, why should these 2 children who have a home and when the youngest starts school the mum will return to a well paid job get such a hand out. I feel that this should have been a scholarship that any child in need should have had the chance to benefit from.

ultimately my fees ( and others) pay for this and I keenly feel that a disservice has been done.

i have no recourse to complaint as there is no external body that I know of who can do this.

feeling rage.

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GraciousPiglet · 25/04/2022 19:25

As an ex prep school teacher, in a good school this happens more often than you might think.

It is not a scholarship though. It's a bursary and should remain private and confidential.

Previously we had a child who's father suddenly died. We obviously kept the children on at school. They were heartbroken, the family needed security and did not need any extra stress. To kick them out would have been totally wrong and I know lots of staff and parents would have been furious had this happened.

The school didn't hesitate to allow the children to stay at the school. They have a hardship fund and I suspect a wealthy benefactor paid for it long term.

Schools are communities, even when they are private schools.

Unfortunately, much as I admire you for working hard to provide for your children etc etc, I have no sympathy for you. It is something you chose to do. You (and absolutely everyone else in the world) can apply for as many bursaries as you would like to any private school that takes your fancy. If they think you are the most deserving of one, you'll get one! There are plenty of people who are 'deserving' but it's who is most deserving that they go to.

unfortunateevents · 26/04/2022 19:33

How on earth do you know so much about this family's circumstances? How have you found out that they have been awarded a lifetime scholarship/how much it is for/that the mother will return to her well-paid job etc etc? It's none of your business! You joined the school knowing how much the fees were - if your money is being spent on these scholarships (and that's only an IF, not a given) then that is really up to the school. Do you have a similar issue if they choose to spend a large sum of money on providing facilities for a sport that your children hate or build a language lab when your children don't study languages?

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