Hello,
Looking for advice, my DD is 5 and has recently started primary school. She has been low key bullying another girl in her class since school began, I have been doing all that I can to combat this. Consequences, apologies in person at the door for each incident, apology cards.
I'm considering taking my daughter to see a child psychologist to get the route cause of the bullying as I am desperate to nip it in the bud.
Have spoke at lengths with my daughter about why she is behaving this way and tonight she said that the reason she feels bad inside- so behaves badly towards this other child Is because she is jealous. I have explained that we can talk about the reasons she feels jealous and try and stop her feeling bad but it doesn't allow or excuse her behaving in this way towards the other child. It needs to stop. There will be severe consequences if it continues (consequences spelled out to her)
How can I help her with these feeling of jealousy though?
To be completely fair the other little girl Is extremely lavished, LOVELY parents, Do tonnes of adventures and amazing family days out every single weekend. More than any other family I have ever come across in my entire life. This child is absolutely lovely and well liked in the school because of how lovely she is. In comparison my child is having a difficult time at school because she is being unkind and a bully.
Our situation in comparison is that my DD is also EXTREMELY lucky... we live in a super privileged area, she has lots of lovely things, we go on holiday abroad a few times a year, family days out every/every other weekend, me and her dad are happily together.
The other child does have and get more than my daughter (5 holidays a year, Disneyland twice, new toys every weekend, very indulged but a lovely lovely kid and family)
How do I help her with her feelings? Any advice on what more I can do to help here?
I have tried explaining that she's very lucky, some children have nothing, the material things don't really matter and the most important thing is she has a family that adore her and that's all that really matters. She doesn't seem to get it.