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Getting more and more pissed about school uniform at DD's primary school

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StaceyBranning · 27/11/2007 13:11

My reason for being pissed off is that there are three boys in DD's class that do not wear the right uniform, not even the right colour. DD's uniform is blue and the jumper or cardi has to have the school crest on. The polo shirts are to be white but can be plain and the bottoms are to be navy for girls and grey for boys.

The uniform is not cheap and like most of the parents I have forked out as that is what is required. What is really pissing me off is that these three boys all come wearing grey jumpers! Not even blue!

Despite numerous notes home in school bags nothing has changed, why should I pay out for the uniform when other parents seem to be just getting away with not having to!!

If I had known I could get away with not buying then I would have saved myself money and sent DD in whatever I wanted!

Every morning I see these boys and get more and more pissed off every day!!

Sorry rant over!

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colditz · 27/11/2007 13:58

StaceyBranning, you cannot control what other people do with regards to their children, and the sooner you accept this, the happier you will be.

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StaceyBranning · 27/11/2007 13:59

colditz, I can't control lother parents nor do I want to, doesn't mean I can't get pissed off though!

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ArmadilloDaMan · 27/11/2007 14:00

YOu don't ahve to wear primary school uniform though mimizan. There is nothing to stop you sending your kids in in soemthing different.

You might get pissed off at reminder letters, but there is little they can actually do about it.

MorocconOil · 27/11/2007 14:00

But not everybody wants their DC to wear the same. It doesn't mean they don't want their children to go to school though.

paolosgirl · 27/11/2007 14:00

Some parents don't like uniform?

Tough. Thems the rules. It's a useful lesson in life for kids to learn - there will be lots of things in life you don't like doing.

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StaceyBranning · 27/11/2007 14:03

TR, the jumpers and cardi's are £12 each don't know why maybe they are lined with cashmere .

One isn't enough DD frequently comes homes covered in paint etc... so I need several I bought 3 new and 2 second hand at a total of £45. To my and my family this is a lot of money which I only begrudge paying when others don't seem to bother or care! I could have bought a blue cardi from Asda for £3 and saved myself some money, but I agreed to the uniform when i accpeted the place at my dausghters school and think everyone else should too!!

Maybe I am making a big deal of this but sometimes even the samllest, trivial things can piss you off, and this is one of them!

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colditz · 27/11/2007 14:17

That's the problem - you have made a choice, and you think everyone else should have made the same choice. There is no law that says they have to make this choice - they are not breaking the law ... but you are angry because they have made a different choice to the one you have made.

This is one of those things that does not matter. Not one jot.

paolosgirl · 27/11/2007 14:22

Doesn't matter to you, colditz. The fact is that the School has decreed this to be the uniform. No, they cannot legally enforce this. What they can do is encourage parents and children to show their support for both the school and the school rules.

It becomes easier for the school to enforce all of it's rules, all of the time, when parents and children support the school all of the time, and don't just pick and choose the bits they like.

MorocconOil · 27/11/2007 14:26

My DC don't wear the uniform.

I don't want them to wear it, and neither do they. But they enjoy learning and have fun at school. They conform to all the other important rules like respecting others, trying their hardest etc.

What's the problem?

colditz · 27/11/2007 14:26

In 20 years, nobody will care about whether 3 little boys were wearing uniform or not. Except perhaps those 3 little boys.

Some people do not have that amount of money to lay out on the uniform the school sells, and that is that. This is why there is no law to enforce it.

paolosgirl · 27/11/2007 14:27

Is there a uniform at their school that forms part of the school rules, mimi?

goingfor3christmaspuddings · 27/11/2007 14:27

2 jumpers is enough especially if you are short on cash.

Your daughter won't feel like an outcast asnd doesn't have parents being snotty behind her back so surely it's better than she does go in in the correct unifrom and you stop judging others.

ArmadilloDaMan · 27/11/2007 14:29

There are school rules and then there is uniform, which for primary cannot be part of the rule as it is not enforceable.

The govt has decreed that is it unfair to make primary aged children have to wear uniform. Surely that is the rule and not the school that have decided to subvert the laws of the country?

seeker · 27/11/2007 14:30

I think people sometimes underestimate how much children like to conform. I would think very carefully before I sent my child to school not in the uniform the others were wearing - however much I don't like school uniform myself.

MorocconOil · 27/11/2007 14:30

No there isn't a uniform rule, and it is my understanding that that couldn't become a rule. If it does then I will be challenging it.

TrinityRhino · 27/11/2007 14:31

I see, that does seem a little pricey for the jumper

Having said that I bought only one with the crest on and just bought the correct coloured ones from tesco and asda

EmsMum · 27/11/2007 14:33

If they were flouting the regs by wearing designer jackets then I'd be annoyed. But grey jumpers? Its not exactly a fashion statement is it. Probably the parents just made a mistake and will change colour when the kids wear out these woolies.

paolosgirl · 27/11/2007 14:35

If there's no rule mimi, then you don't have to wear the uniform!

MorocconOil · 27/11/2007 14:37

My DC really aren't interested in what people wear. Maybe they will as they reach the teenage years, but for the moment they don't care about that kind of stuff.

One of them did come home upset because the teacher had been saying the children in uniform looked very smart. He asked for a school sweatshirt so we went and bought 3. He wore them 4 times, then hasn't asked for them since. I don't actively discourage uniform, just don't encourage it.

I know all the arguments for uniform, but just don't think they ring true.

seeker · 27/11/2007 14:45

If they aren't interested, why not just put them in the uniform? I don't like it either and I don't buy all the arguments people use in favour of it, but I don't think it's a good idea to deliberately make children "different" in ways that others notice. Children can be horrible to each other!

paolosgirl · 27/11/2007 14:47

My DC aren't interested in clothes either - they love their uniforms for that very reason, as they can chuck them on in the morning, don't have to think about what to wear and can get it as dirty as they want to without having to worry. Funny how kids often see things in a more simplistic way than we do.

MorocconOil · 27/11/2007 14:49

Seeker, only about 3/4 of the children wear the uniform. I really don't think it looks nice seeing all these tiny children dressed the same, so I won't be encouraging it as long as my dss are ok with it.

cushioncover · 27/11/2007 16:35

I always think how fab our bright yellow polo shirts are when I've taken a class of 34 out on a trip and I need to keep an eye on them.

Reallytired · 27/11/2007 17:42

Why don't you go to ASDA to buy a cardigan? It really isn't the end of the world that three boys aren't wearing an over priced school sweatshirt. Provided children are wearing practical clothes for school why is there a problem?

It really sounds like the OP needs to get herself a life.

stripeymama · 27/11/2007 17:45

Why on earth would a minor variation on a school uniform, on someone else's child, concern anyone, much less piss them off?

Why?

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