I'm getting a bit weary of hearing that ds has been teased by boys at school for being 'scared of everything' - ds is 10 and is a quiet, gentle and thoughtful boy, not a running around boistrous boy in any sense. He is content in his own company but will play and share with others quite happily,though avoids ball games and anything too rowdy - the reason being is that he does have difficulties in catching,throwing,some balancing,etc and can't judge where balls,people are coming from very well - all this is and has been addressed by the school sand he has ongoing Occupational Therapy - and things are definitely improving, but it does mean that he rules himself out of joining in with such activities. (he's scared of animals too,for same reasons - they move unpredictably or quickly and he doesn't feel comfortable ) I know about the school's bullying policy etc and I don't believe this is as severe as bullying -it's just irritating and annoying for him and makes me .
I reaffirm every time how good/clever/fab he is and he is quite self assured and underneath a gentle exterior I know he is quite steely and if pushed too far might snap back but if he does stand up for himself he tends to feel guilty and that he's doing something bad. He even apologised to a boy who had said some nasty things to him because he felt he'd answered back innapropriately (yhe boy told him he would kill him the next day so ds answered with 'I wish you'd never been born' - which I can't blame him for, but explained that maybe he might have expressed himself differently. Anyway, he was very upset that he'd spoken back like that ! Sorry, this has got very long,but I wanted to get it off my chest !