Do I report this kind of behaviour to the Reception teacher?

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Dd started Reception last week and tonight when I was putting her to bed she said to me "what does 'sex you' mean?" I asked her to repeat what she'd said and she said the same and I asked her where she'd heard it and she said a boy came up to her by the coat area and pushed his hips / willy area into her bottom, pushing her against the wall and said 'I want to sex you'. She said 'I don't like that, stop it' (her stock reply!) and he laughed loudly in her ear and ran off. Dd was a bit shaken but didn't tell the teacher.

Immediately I was quietly horrified (I played it down to dd) and I'm now wondering if I should send a note to the Reception teacher about it.

It's only happened this once and I don't know the boy's name because dd didn't know it. Should I put it down to childish boisterousness or think of it more seriously? Is this something that happens often in Reception settings?

I'd particularly love to get replies from Reception teachers as to what they'd recommend.

This kind of thing happened during the school holidays to my DD1. Her best friend a 5yr old boy became "sexual" and kept wanting to snog her and a few weeks into the school holidays he tried to "do it" to my DD2 who is only 2yrs old.
He had her nappy off, over the bed and his trousers down!
Dealt with it calmly, and so far this new term he is not doing this kind of thing, mentioned it to teacher and for her to keep an eye out on another boy who had give her "boyfriend" this type of idea.
I was a bit shocked a few days ago though.
My DD1 came home after playing outside and said " I'm coming in now, cos the big boy outside might screw me".
My nerves were on edge and i was ready to race outhere and drag him to his parents by his earhole!.
But, i asked my DD1 what did she mean by "screw me".
And to my relief she said that he had battery powered screwdriver!
Phew! what a relief.
But, it seems that at this age they do get very aware of the difference in sexes..ect.
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Same here oops. Dd is wiped out at the end of the day, she doesn't know what to do with herself. I've found that making her dinner really early (they have lunch very early at her school so I think part of it is sheer hunger) and getting her to sit and chill while she eats makes all the difference. Then we can usually have a really nice hour or two before bed.

Going back to the subject of the thread, I have now written a letter to the headmaster telling him I'm not happy with the way this was handled. I gave him all the details, especially as I'm now sure it was a boy in dd's class and not an older boy in the big playground (as the teacher kept insisting - how did she know that?!) because dd was pointing out a boy to dp in the queue in the morning the other day. She kept pointing at him but wouldn't say anything and dp said he fitted the description dd gave when she told me about it. If that is the case then I believe it definitely is worrying and certainly needs more investigation.

I'm hoping to go and speak to the head when he's read the letter. I asked him to call me or I'd call him by the end of the week.

just read the thread for the first time.
youve done the right thing in writing a letter to the head IF.

I think so too DirtieGirtie. In a way the teacher's pathetic response pushed me into a stronger sense of resolve. I was wavering before.

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Ripeberry- if that happened to my 2 year old I would be 'phoning social services. 5 Year olds do not behave in that way, even if a 'friend' taught it them.

He had her nappy off, over the bed and his trousers down!

he is 5, she is 2- something is very wrong here.

Yes I meant to mention that Ripeberry - that sounds so wrong.

oops, she's doing ok really. The teacher says she's very reserved 'keeps herself to herself' but she's not sad to be going in and I see her having a chat with some of the girls at pick up time. So all in all apart from this incident she's doing much better than I'd expected! I'm so glad your ds has settled so well.