Triplets in the same clas?

[MilaRose]

Hey everyone!

I'm new to this site, but we've got identical triplet girls who will be 4 in July and thus starting primary school in September. We have been so torn on whether to apply for the girls to be in the same class at school or in the 3 parallel classes that are available. We have really looked into it and are still just as confused as the start!! Two of them (D & A) are naturally more clingy/similar to each other as one (G) is more independent in her nature and strikingly different in personality, leaving the school to suggest placing D and A into one class and G into another. But this doesn't sit well with me. I feel that if i'm going to separate them then they should all be separated, not 2 together and 1 alone. It's so difficult because they've obviously always been together and they really rely on each other but at the same I can see how being separated may let them develop more as individuals. We're just so torn and really confused. I think it is made all the more different because they are identical, we want to give them all the same opportunities.

The options we are torn between is:
-All girls in separate classes
-The girls in the same class (meaning they will make up 3 of the 20 members.)
-D and A in one class and G in another

I think you need to ask the school if it mixes the classes each year/at key points e.g. end of Y2. It would also be worth checking what happens with things such as residential trips i.e. do all three classes go at once or will it be a staggered trip? And how does the school ensure equality of opportunity in general across classes? Sometimes schools are able to offer participation in a free project such as a community drama, to one class, but not others. That might be hard to stomach if two of your girls are in the class that gets those opportunities but the third misses out.

I've taught triplets; one of the girls and the boy were in the parallel class whereas the remaining girl, along with their cousin, was in my class. That was in Y3 and Y4. In the same school, another set of triplets (identical girls and a boy) have recently started in reception. Their parents asked for them to be kept together. I've taught identical twins who were in the same class, identical twins who were in parallel classes and non-identical twins who were in parallel classes. The main advantage of being in separate classes was that each child was referred to by their name, not as 'the triplets/twins'.

All girls in separate classes. It's likely that they will spend time together anything, lunch time etc. Often EYFS have free flow classrooms and outside areas. Does yours?

I think it depends if this decision is for YR only or all of KS1. DDs primary is three form entry and after YR the children are mixed up getting to choose which three friends they want to be with (with a guarantee of one). Then they stay in the same classes in Y1 and Y2, then mix them again for Y3 where is two years together until mixed again in Y5 where they stay together until they leave.

If your school is the same I would keep all three together to see how it works out and then for Y1 see what they want to do.