Non Competative Sports Days. I hate them

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Everyday the same children come out of school with certificates for good writing/reading/maths etc, but sports day can't be competative in case children are upset when they loose.
At the mum of two sports mad sons it drives me mad as it's their one chance to shine.
Anyone else agree?

ds2's sports day was rained off, but was apparently going to be 50% non competitive, then 50% team competitive. DS2 is hopeless but terribly competitive and willing to give it a go (he's always telling me who the fastest in the class are).

Where have I been personally insulting?

'Aloha' - ''People yak on and on about how life is like sport. Like fuck it is. All this winners and losers bollocks.
What about cooperation? Understanding? Doing your best without worrying about being a 'winner', challenging yourself without the need to 'beat' anyone else. Now, that's what I call a healthy attitude likely to lead to happiness. ''
DEAD RIGHT - I think you have hit the nail on the head. All this competitive for competitiveness sake in business is why so many people are working such ridiculously long hours for no extra pay and why employers have come to expect it and take it for granted.

Watch that chip on your shoulder doesn't poke your eye out.

Lovely. I shall remember that.

yes suntan is very right

think about the people in work who are competative and want to be first in anything. Think about competative mummies. Do you actually like them?

or do you think "there goes a sad no-life tosser"?

Sopy that actually sounds like a nice day. DS3 still wouldnt cope but I agree he is the bare base level and I should have removed him really.

MB, Custy and Rhuby you would have ahd nowt on me. I was never not last picked, I remember kids walking out having to have me on the team. And the teacher said she understood why they didnt want that cretin (ie me) on their team. I was BEYOND!

Oh God, if I had a pund for every time someone accused me of having a chip on my shoulder I'd be rich by now. Hardly insult of teh century.

Accusing folk of taking some sort of enjoyment out of watching SN kids come last in a race is far worse imo.

Anchovy - alas no Pimms but a rather nice cup of tea with dayglo iced cupcakes

Aloha - I can honestly say that I cannot recall for the 'serious' racers one single child's placing! DD who is actually incredibly sporty, opted for two fun races. Maybe the competitive gene passed her by too I think very few people would even register which child came first or last in any particular race.

But it's not the same children that get writing/reading/maths certificates.

The op is bollox

Peachy, about me they used to say 'Do wil have to have her Miss? we had her last time'

yeah the certs are for the thick kids or the behaviourally challanged as encouragement.

oh this is an old thread. I think I'm posting twice.

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even worse, custy, they're just sort of given out in rotation to everyone

God I wish ds1 (severely autistic, severe learning difficulties) understood the concept of "race" or even "run in straight line" as he'd win. He is so fast (MB knows), and it would be some use to being fast; it would be the only thing he could take on NT kids at.

We had his annual review today and they were sniggering at the memory of him at the school mini-marathon. He was meant to go round with dh and I, but was all over the place, went twice as far as everyone else, dh and I were bickering our way round.....

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aloha i think you are being wvery harsh on des.

Noone is saying that because someones child wins a race at sports day they will laugh at those still runing, or behind them. And the problem is surely with parents, as I have never seen or heard of other kids doing this.

Your whole life is competitive, for there to be a winner someone has to loose whether it be at reading, getting a job, writing, earning money.

dh (enthusiastic about sports, but hopeless) spends a lot of time looking at ds1 saying "such a shame, he's got such pace, he'd be such a fantastic rugby player/footballer/etc etc; if only...." Such great dreams & hopes dashed, never to be realised.....

He ran out of the front door yesterday, I couldn't catch him.

Thats pretty much the issue we had Gess, he didntr ealise he had to race. He just did, or didnt as he saw fit. Which would have been OPK, it was the aprents attitude that hurt really.

MB ah but your teacher didnt call you a cretin did she? LOL.

It's all in the pace apparently (yawnalishious, dh banging on about it again).

'Noone is saying that because someones child wins a race at sports day they will laugh at those still runing, or behind them' but they did, Penelope. They did. And it really hurt Dh and I.

Not just the pace gess

I find ds1's suicidal alck of fear helps a lot too!

ds1 would run peachy- just not in the same direction as everyone else. His mini-marathon has an initial session for children in wheelchairs (which he insists on joining) then one for the physically able, which he uses as an excuse to look through windows and over fences he;s not usually allowed near. Same route every year.

I can confirm, at this poit, that gess's ds1 moves like greased lightning.

And that her ds3 bounces when he falls.

And her ds2 held hands with my ds! So sweet!