PGL - daughter not wanting to go

[madcatwoman197700]

My daughter is not good at staying away from
Home and despite hoping she would improve ready for PGL in september, she really don't think she can manage it

Does anyone know if we'd get a refund? We e paid £350

I take groups to PGL every year and it's not uncommon for children to have doubts about going. Most years we have parents bring their child for the day and take them home at night for a variety of reasons but I've known some children to come on the first day and decide to stay! My advice would be to speak to the school as soon as you can to let them know your DD is anxious about it. There shouldn't be any issues just taking her for the day activities, meals etc. I wouldn't advise forcing her to go which would add to her anxiety. I hope she enjoys it, I love it and have been taking classes to PGL for 8 years now. I never get tired of seeing the children having fun and learning to work as a team ☺️

OP. I hope you have an understanding school who will find a middle ground for you. My DD2, also adopted, was very nervous of her y5 trip. She had only had 1 night away from me prior to her trip (a sleepover at a very good friends, in preparation for the trip).

The school were excellent with her both before and during the trip. The HT had her in his group in the day and private tweeted us pictures as she couldn't be in the 'public' ones.

The trip really helped her confidence. Yes staying away was part of it, but doing the daytime activities was massive for her too. We strongly encouraged her to go, but we weren't certain she'd get on the coach, and we wouldn't have forced it.

Go and talk to the school and see what they can put in place.

Are they close by? Could your daughter just go for the daytime and not stay overnight?

You can ask the school about days only but they may be reluctant to agree because of the potential disruptive effect on their other students.

You can ask the school about days only but they may be reluctant to agree because of the potential disruptive effect on their other students.

That is a very good point and being picked up every day would need very careful handling. I suspect it could depend on how aware peers are on the DD's issues. e.g. If she is known for being very anxious they would probably accept it. But if things are more hidden there could be a 'it's not fair, you get to see your Mum' attitude or worse teasing for being babyish about not wanting to stay.

Just thought I'd up date you all! PGL was last week! She ended up going for the days only and we picked her up and dropped her off each morning/evening (luckily it was only an hour from our house and we could juggle work) . Her school were totally amazing about it and her friends very supportive. Really thrilled and she's very proud of herself

Happy it worked out well for your daughter

Lovely to hear it went well. They are all different and I bet your DD is brave in many areas where my 'nights away loving' daughter wouldn't be! Hope she has some great memories.

Yes that's the thing, she will dance on stage infront of a theatre full of people, so is confident in her own way! X

Oh that is brilliant news. It was great that everything worked out so well.

How lovely for all of you! Well done OP and DD!