catkind Of course anxiety is bad, but I just don't see how misleading a year 1 kid about a phonics check (not a test) and not just being open and making it out to be the normal part of school life that it is. That's the whole point of it being a check, you cannot fail it, so yes I'd be outraged if they were told they failed, but equally I'd be pretty annoyed if it came to a surprise about where they were with phonics.
Were going to check your phonics, every kid gets this in year 1, it's a good way of making sure we're teaching you well, did you know 20 years ago lots of kids didn't manage to learn to read?
Last week we were practicing the sounds and you were finding tch tricky right, are there others you think you might be tricky? Anyway, it won't take long...
I just don't believe pretence and hiding what you're doing reduces anxiety, you can't control the message enough to actually make a child think it's as irrelevant as you need them to, so being completely open is the way to go.
Yes being positive and encouraging whilst you're reading with them, and teaching anything, you need to be at a very high and self aware level of a skill where genuine criticism can be useful, I'm sure that would never apply in these situations or ever for primary kids. Telling them if they still need to learn more about phonics is not that though.