Teacher nicknaming DS which he doesnt like

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She keeps shortening his name to a name that he really doesnt like and that no one in the class ever calls him, hes been correcting her for months and is starting to get really frustrated by it and so now she is getting cross at him for correcting obviously frustrated as hes being rude.
The nickname is also creating laughter and teasing from the other kids each time its used, not neccesarily because they are being unkind to ds but just because its funny, I thought this would make her stop but so far it hasnt.
Its only two syllables and 5 letters, not hard to pronounce at all.

Do we need to tell him he just has to suck it up for the last few months or should the teacher be making more of an effort to get his name right?

YANBU - and I agree with @steppemum that the teacher's response is ridiculous.

I think she owes @upsideup's son an apology, in front of the class. Personally, I would be writing to the teacher today saying that, having thought over her response yesterday, you are not happy with how things were left - you want her to acknowledge that it is her actions in repeatedly misnaming your son, despite being asked by him and by you on numerous occasions, that have caused him to become upset and angry, and that his anger and frustration are a direct result of her actions,so the appropriate course of action is for her to address her habit of misnaming your son first, not his understandable anger.

Plus, as her actions have caused your son distress, and caused him to be teased, you would like her to tell the class that his name is Fullname not Nickname, and that she is sorry for having forgotten this in the past.

I would take it to the head then given your update. She should be calling DS by his preferred name. I see nothing wrong with him politely correcting her.

My DS is known by a shortening for his name and gets very cross when someone uses his 'long' name. Luckily so far teachers have been very good at using his shortened name.

No that's wrong.

I'm a teacher and I always ask what the students want to be known as and write it in my planner. Some use middle names etc and if you ever want a productive relationship with your young charges they have to know that you have a modicum of respect.

Go back to the school. The teacher has been too dismissive.

Can I just say that the children in our school are taught to recognise bullying as someone doing something to you that you don't like. They are taught to remember the acronym STOP
Several Times On Purpose.

Given that bullying can be verbal as well as physical.....

How have you allowed this to go on for months? Seriously go speak to the teacher, deal with this head on.

Just read the update. Erm no! She needs to learn the children's name correctly. If she was not calling you ds the wrong name I presume he would not be rude or ignore her. She is 100%in the wrong here. I would not be happy with her response at all and would be taking up with principal and if necessary board of governors. Completely unacceptable!!!

Teacher's response was completely unacceptable and I think you need to put your encounter and expectations in writing to the Head now.

Teacher is now bullying your child and expecting more of a child than of herself. Not on.

What?! Names are incredibly personal and important, has she really just said "well I'm an adult so I get to decide to change your name for my own convenience and they should put up with that erasure of identity quietly"?
Maybe she should just start calling everyone in her class Child1, Child2, Child3 because thats easier for her?

erm no his behaviour doesn't need sorting first. I would put it in writing and speak to the head. This is unacceptable

I half wondered if you should go in, deliberately get her name wrong, see her bristle and say that it isn't her name, use it again, and then tell her that if she doesn't like it as an adult why does she expect a child to put up with it? Except that two wrongs don't normally make a right but this time it might just.

Any further update op?