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In Yr2 kids same sex relationships lessons

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yasminluv · 25/01/2018 21:50

Hi
In Year 2 they have a day where kids learn about samesex relationships
It’s after Easter apperantly is that nationally and is every school different

If this to happen How can I as a parent address this with the teacher the fact that I don’t want him to participate

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Justanotherzombie · 01/02/2018 23:22

Gwen, I know many (not all) Protestant denominations. I grew up in one of the most liberal and moderate ones. And my father and grandfather were both involved in voting in women clergy so no, I don't think there's loads of churches who have 'never had restrictions on the roles women can have'.

Cocofluff · 01/02/2018 23:27

WOW we are all up in arms about op having a lifestyle choice that is different from ours? It may not be my opinion but I respect we live in a country where religious freedom is allowed and op is allowed to express her own choices. Op has stated she wishes to educated her child when they are a little older. She has said she is going to educate the child on this subject. However it seems she is not aloud to have a difference of opinion on how she chooses to live her life. She has said she respects others in their choices but she chooses to follow a different path in her life

Cocofluff · 01/02/2018 23:30

So op you can ask the teacher what will be discussed hopefully it will be age appropriate and then make your choice. Because luckily if you are in the uk we all have a choice and religious freedom.

ViceAdmiralAmilynHoldo · 01/02/2018 23:50

I'm a Christian and I really struggle with the idea that parents are able to deny their children information about bodies, relationships and society because it doesn't fit their particular world view. I think sex & relationship ed should be compulsory - I'm not sure from what age.

My kids went to a church primary school. Even there I'd have been staggered if there were many seven year olds who didn't already know there were same sex relationships. By leaving it 'until later' you make more of an issue about it.

I was volunteering in the school once when a five year old child suddenly talked about getting married, and asked "Can marry boys?" I replied that they could (the legislation had just been enacted). I told the teacher afterwards, saying I was sorry if it caused problems, but he'd asked me a question and I gave a factual answer. She just replied that I'd answered correctly and couldn't be expected to do anything else. The parents did complain, because they were bigots (they had no faith) as I'd apparently 'put ideas into son's head'. It was nonsense obviously as I was only replying to a question. Like you, OP, they erroneously believed their child was 'too young' to know. They're not. Don't hide life from your children.

KriticalSoul · 02/02/2018 00:02

I had to talk to my kids about it, one of their friends has a mum who's bi and in a relationship with another woman, and one of her kids from her previous marriage is also Transgender.

I'm not atheist ftr, i'm pagan.

Personally, I think its more damaging to a young mind to brainwash them with religion and its indoctrination of homophobia than to teach them that people can love whoever they like, male or female.

Adarajames · 02/02/2018 00:21

A whole day?! Really? I very much doubt it what with the amount of other subjects teaching to tests that schools have to fit in now! It'll almost certainly be a brief mention as part of a topic on families or the like, maybe a few pictures that happen to have a same sexy couple in them; no school is going to sit them down and do a whole days teaching on 'the gays', people do seem to be taking it to an illogical degree!

Catsize · 02/02/2018 11:43

few pictures that happen to have a same sexy couple in them

😂

blackberryfairy · 02/02/2018 11:46

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Adarajames · 02/02/2018 12:55

@catsize. ops, my autocorrect must think I have a dirtier mind than I do! Shock. Grin

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 02/02/2018 12:59

Wow. How has your child reached 7 without meeting any same-sex couples?

My children were older than 7 before they met a same sex couple

If you dont know any same sex couples you dont know any

Raaaaaah · 02/02/2018 13:15

With respect yasmin it is not about what you believe is right it is an education about what happens in real life. Of course you are entitled to disagree with same sex relationships ( to be clear I don’t agree with you) but your child will come across them and may even enter into one so has a right to be informed. I too am rather surprised that it hasn’t come at home yet. Both of my elder kids knew by this age that marriages/relationships weren’t just female/male. Not because I’d gone out of my way to teach them but because it had cropped up in conversation.

MrsPreston11 · 02/02/2018 13:15

My youngest has 2 children in her class with same-sex parents.

The children don't even question it.

blackberryfairy · 02/02/2018 13:23

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coffeecork · 02/02/2018 13:46

I wouldn't personally have a problem with this, although it does seem to be making a huge issue out of being gay. Surely the best thing at this age would be to throw in the occasional story book featuring same sex parents and be matter of fact about it?

But I would not currently trust schools to teach about transgender issues without unintentionally promoting sex stereotypes. So for that reason I'd want to see the materials involved and make sure that the day is only focused on homosexuality.

WiggyPig · 02/02/2018 13:54

I'm Anglican and I'm also a lesbian, my kid has two mums, and our local faith school is the only one to have adopted the Stonewall anti-homophobia policy.

I wonder when my child will be old enough to learn that there are other Christians who think her mums are too scary for their child to even know about? Seven? Nine?

WiggyPig · 02/02/2018 13:54

(Only school in our area to have adopted the Stonewall anti-homophobia policy that should say, obviously it's not the only one in the universe!)

why12345 · 02/02/2018 14:09

^Sometimes men love women
And sometimes men love men
Then there are some bisexuals
Though some just say they're kidding themselves.^

Lesson done in 10 second by Phoebe Buffay.

People need to stop making a mountain out of a molehill. Hmm

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 02/02/2018 14:13

Well i can assure you that I haven't made a special effort Grin

My children have gay and bisexual friends now they are older

Twofishfingers · 02/02/2018 14:28

Schools have a duty to teach tolerance and respect of everyone, independent of their faith, ethnic origin, and sexual orientation. It's part of the British values (which by the way are not only British... ).

The lessons don't teach about 'sex' or 'sexual relationships', they talk about the fact that in our society, many people are in gay relationships. We need to teach children to respect those who are gay, and understand that many children will have two parents of the same sex and those kids should not be picked on, or discriminated against. This is what they teach in school, and this is what many parents have been telling their children since they were very young.

They don't teach about gay sex. It's about love and respect. If your religion goes against that, then your religion is wrong.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 02/02/2018 17:56

5bh I don’t have issues with this and I quite involved in my local church.

Dementedswan · 02/02/2018 18:01

You sure your 7 year old doesn't know about this already?

My 7 year old asked me a couple years ago if a boy could marry a boy and a girl could marry a girl. He's not come across any obvious same sex couples as far as I'm aware. Just natural curiosity.

slippermaiden · 02/02/2018 19:35

I don't think my son was taught this in year two. He does know the word gay from his friends, and although I have explained this is okay and not funny at all, he thinks it's absolutely hilarious, as do his friends. (Admittedly straight relationships are quite funny too!) I don't fancy being the teacher in that lesson with a bunch of immature kids!

stayingaliveisawayoflife · 02/02/2018 19:49

In my year 2 classroom we just talk a lot about how people are the same and different and how people live in lots of different families. As I had a pair of 'twins' with two mums it was just known that you could have two mums or dads. Children just accept what is around them.

someoneorother · 09/02/2018 17:25

I'm 50 and have met a lot of people in my life and as far as I know I've never met a same sex couple. OK I did meet a German lesbian couple who were camping once, but I didn't know they were that until someone told me afterwards. I think otherwise I have maybe one or two distant acquaintances who are that way and I've not met them as couples, just had contact with the one person. I really think that people who live in cities have a different experience of life.

BIWI · 09/02/2018 19:07

And your point is, @someoneorother? Are you trying to suggest that the OP's children should be taught about same sex relationships?