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Reception kids party present- how much?

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Mum8 · 09/01/2018 19:03

DC was invited to birthday party for one child from her reception class and we were asked to get a gift voucher from a specific store as a gift

How much value would you give for the voucher? It is not one of DD’s best friends but she knows him and would love to go.

Usually I find toys of a £10 that have been discounted and are at a less value than that, but for a gift voucher don’t want to go too cheap or extravagant either IYKWIM

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user789653241 · 09/01/2018 19:20

I'm quite shocked that they asked for specific present.
If you normally get the toy about £10, I would get voucher for £10.

sproutsandparsnips · 09/01/2018 19:32

at telling you what to buy!

PlaymobilPirate · 09/01/2018 19:35

£10 is more than enough.

Meh to the shocked posters. I'd not do it as ds likes getting random surprise crap but we've all got too much plastic tat lying about and I for one would love vouchers for him instead!

Believeitornot · 09/01/2018 19:37

Asking for vouchers is a bit grabby.

I fully accept that a party means presents which usually means plastic tat. Which the DCs love

MrsHathaway · 09/01/2018 19:37

I am agog at the effrontery.

I bet the vouchers come in multiples of £10 too

I would be sorely tempted to pop a fiver in the card with a postit saying sorry you didn't get a chance to go to the shop

Makingahome · 09/01/2018 19:39

£5 max. I'm putting £10 in best mates card.

MrsHathaway · 09/01/2018 19:39

Fwiw a friend has been canvassing on FB (discreetly: custom privacy) for how to reduce gifts and has settled on asking for "a shiny pound or a packet/tin for the food bank". A shiny pound taped into the card is the Best Present Ever for a 5yo ffs.

CountFosco · 09/01/2018 19:43

Oh at that stage I spend as little as possible. I'd be tempted to get some books from The Book People and ignore the request. Once the kids are older and have more long term friendships then I'd spend more but at 5 for a boy she isn't that friendly with. Meh.

Bowerbird5 · 09/01/2018 19:45

£10 would be plenty.
I am a bit shocked that they have asked but perhaps the DC has a large item that s/he has set their heart on and the family can't afford.

It doesn't mean you have to comply. My DD was given a large string puppet in Reception which she had an amazing amount of fun with. We still have him and I take him to school now and then.

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 09/01/2018 19:46

I normally spend £5 on kids party presents.
But weirdly I would feel cheap getting a £5 gift voucher. Go figure.

SnowFairyDust · 09/01/2018 19:47

Gosh that is cheeky! I usually look for something worth about £10 but discounted so usually spend about £7!

just5morepeas · 09/01/2018 19:47

I try not to spend more than £5. I generally buy a couple of age suitable toys when I see any on sale.

Piffpaffpoff · 09/01/2018 19:48

Fiver tops.

shhhfastasleep · 09/01/2018 19:49

I'd be embarrassed if you gave my dd more than £10. And a bit at more than £7 to be honest.

Frazzled2207 · 09/01/2018 19:56

I'd probably give £10. But normally aim to spend £7-8 unless it's a very good friend.

PorridgeAgainAbney · 09/01/2018 20:00

So if the whole class go they could end up with £300 in vouchers? . Fuck that.

I'd do same as pp and get something from The Works or similar. I only spend around £4 and that usually gets a nice story and some felt tips or coloured pencils.

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Mum8 · 09/01/2018 20:01

Looks like it will be a £10 voucher then
SnowFairyDust I feel the same. I also usually spend £6-8 for a gift that’s discounted, usually find good deals but I did find it cheeky too but it’s in the invite

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user789653241 · 09/01/2018 20:35

I don't know what else you can do, but it may start a bad tradition of everyone requesting voucher than presents....

Believeitornot · 09/01/2018 20:38

I would give £5

Present buying when you get invited to whole class parties really adds up! Only my dcs very good friends get more than £5 spent on them.

Itchytights · 09/01/2018 20:41

Cheeky fuckers asking for vouchers.

For a kid in the class who’s having a party.

£10 max and I would not be getting them
Vouchers!

lottiegarbanzo · 09/01/2018 20:45

Exactly the same as you - usually spend £6-8 on a £6-12 value gift, using 3-for-2s etc.

I don't think the parents have thought it through. Is this their oldest child? I think £5 should be fine in the circs, if available! (Unless you know that every single other person will give £10. But I'd sort of want to stand in solidarity with the one or two who can't afford that).

user789653241 · 09/01/2018 20:46

Just wondered, the child will be 5, does the boy actually enjoy getting vouchers? At that age, opening lots of presents sounds more fun than getting vouchers to spend at the shop, surely?

MrsU88 · 09/01/2018 21:17

I hate the idea of giving vouchers, I usually check out sales and choose something I think they like around the £5 mark.

think of it this way,.... there's usually 30 children in the class. lets use 25 discounting some may not come and birthday child. if everyone gave £10 that would be £250!!!! WOW!!!! I think a £5 voucher is enough and birthday child will still get over £100! My 5 yr old was amazed at getting £30 nevermind £100!

I'd ignore and send a gift.... choosing, wrapping and taking a present is all part of the fun for the child attending the party. And I am sure the birthday child will enjoy opening lots of presents rather than a card with a gift card in.

CheekyFuckersAreEntertaining · 09/01/2018 21:26

I always give a tenner cash in a card or a gift card if I know the kid is into certain things (I.e Claire's Accessories or Xbox) because I never know what to give but to be TOLD what to buy? No. That would push me to go and pick out an actual gift. And a messy or noisy one at that! How grabby. That'll be anywhere between £100 - £300 in vouchers!

We all know you get plastic tat at parties, it's part of it.

BLUESEAPARADISE · 09/01/2018 21:29

I would give £5 .. that way the child can spend the money in the shop she wanted the gift card for

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