I was looking for a little advice on the following situation. Sorry its so long .
I have received a phone call from my partner whilst I was at work today explaining the following scenario. Bearing in mind my child walks home with her friend and their mummy from school and by the time they walk home I'm home from work or my partner is depending on my work rota. Tonight I was on the late shift so he picked her up
My partner picked up our child from said friends house at which he was told by this lovely lady that she had been called into the class at the end of the school day to both of our children sat on a mat with another child.
She was told that the children had smeared paint over their hands on the back and the front and then put their hands on each other including their shirts and then had put their hands on another child who wasn't involved and got paint all over this child and on items in the room. The other mother was then told to tell me how my child had misbehaved today. The teacher said our children didn't show any remorse when told it was wrong and were devious and for their actions the children were told to sit in the quiet corner and were excluded from a tea party in the afternoon and told to stay there until their mothers came . My child had said sorry originally when she did it but was told to apologise again at the end of the day and the teachers were apologising to the parent with paint on their shirt . I know for a fact if I or any of her nursery teachers slightly raised their voices my daughter would be extremely upset and quiet she always has been this way.
The three teachers were stood up and the two children were sat on the floor. The other mother said she felt like she was being told off through the children and the children were being looked down on now parenting and child development classes often tell you to be on the same level as your child . Its was unnecessarily intimidating.
Now these are my issues with the following situation. All three children started school for the first time ever 2 weeks ago. All the children attended the same private nursery which is just next to the school and not part of it and in this nursery I cannot count the number of times I brought my child home and she was absolutely caked in mud and paint and the nursery had told me she was playing and they encourage them to get messy and I often walked in to children running around with paint everywhere It was called messy play. I understand the children shouldn't do this now if these are the rules of the school but 2 weeks ago they were in nursery and when we explained this the teacher said it was just naughty and devious. At 4 years old my child is extremely attentive smart and caring especially to others I do not want her labelled as the bad child because I swear she is not she helps me when I've been extremely poorly and is so thoughtful bringing me blankets and helping me around the house.
They should have been told once and said its not acceptable in school now and then they should have moved on . How long were they sat on this mat watching other children enjoy a tea party and being excluded. Why was I not called and why were they passing messages through another parent. Also this was also done in front of another 6 or 7 pupils why was it not done in private . Where were the teachers when the children were caking themselves in paint ? If this is so appalling then why last week when my daughters friend put permanent marker on her cardigan did someone not come and speak to me and apologise
Both myself and the other mummy are extremely devastated by how our children were treated today as its been a rough first week and a half with them both being extremely nervous and even tears on the doorstep of school in a morning i'm worried after this ...no I know after this tomorrow It will be a struggle to get her through the door. They've been there 2 weeks !
I've spoken to the other mother, my SIL and my two of my work colleagues who are involved with working with children in a workplace setting and the other mother has spoken to her family member who is a HV and they've all said it was handled terribly . I just don't know how to proceed Im not happy at all