do schools have the right?

[itsallornothing]

Do schools have the right to not allow your child to go to the toilet when they need to go?? Mortified and furious that my DS came home sobbing today because he asked to go to the toilet and the head teacher said no? He said he told her he was going to wee himself, she said apparently "not yet we are in the middle of assembly" my son then started crying and raised his voice at her "but I need a wee and I might wee myself" he then had his break time taken away from him as he was rude by raising his voice at her? plus my son is currently being assessed for ADHD and autism!

[itsallornothing]

Thank you you're right. Iv been waiting for the SENCO to meet with me for over a month now, Iv asked several times when? and I'm not given an answer because they don't know when. Once a week they do a celebration assembly that lasts an hour, they celebrate awards, birthdays and met targets. Today was an hour long. He needed a wee before assembly and was told in a minute and 45 minutes into the assembly he began to raise his voice and cry after asking her for a while. Apparently she said you should have gone before assembly and he said I asked Mrs.. So and so and she said in a minute and apparently Mrs. So and so said nothing another patent said!

[user789653241]

My ds has asd traits. He can be really focused on something. He forgets everything else. I have experienced so many times that one minute he didn't need to go, next, he was desperate. So, if I know he can't go for while, I really need to make sure he goes now. soapboxqueen's suggestion of using his name might be good for your ds.
My ds is 8 now, and he can control it now. So, it gets better.

[itsallornothing]

I'm proud of him he held it for long and was so polite and patient. Very proud he contained himself so well and he is not in any circumstances in any trouble for raising his voice at her!! I don't know how to calm down from this. He's such a good boy to be honest and accepts most things considering, my son now feels sad that he shouted because he says it's not kind! He should not feel guilty for this thanks for all your comments, i really appreciate your support xx

[itsallornothing]

Thank you, Irvine, it literally is one extreme to the other at times. Bless them, it must be so nerve wracking and stressful for them xx

[patchesmcp]

I don't blame you for being furious, I really feel for your DS I'd be arranging a meeting with the head to get her side of the story, but I can't think of many circumstances in which it is acceptable to say no to a 5 year old going to the loo.

[itsallornothing]

Thanks patch.. I'm going to in the morning, endless problems with that sodding school, Iv had enough xx

[ChinchillaFur]

How did it go itsallornothing ? Did you get anything resolved and a plan put in place going forwards? I really felt for you and your ds.