Ever though a teacher didn't like your DC?

[citychick]

Just that really.
DS in year 5, and to date I have never thought any of his teachers have actually "liked" him very much.

He's a typical boy, would far rather be outside kicking a ball around.
Bright with good attainment. No genius. Bit of a renegade. Likes maths, dislikes comprehension.

His current teacher is so far the only one to actually want to help him reach his potential. Hallelujah! But he seems to frustrate the life out of her.

If he doesn't like the particular topic, he doesn't get that involved. She says that while she can't physically make him do his school work, she gives him the choice. Do it at school or add it to homework. So he occasionally has to take it home. Adding to the homework he's already got.
Have asked her not to give him the choice, thanks.

He's in denial about homework. Hates writing it in his diary. So I have to send him up at 3pm to write it all in and gather the books for it. Exaughsting!

I can see her frustration, but He's got to go to school! He's recently moved into the private sector and the jump from uk state primary to international private has been massive for him and I see a huge improvement already.
But none of his teachers seem satisfied and we left parent/ teachers meetings feeling like he just pissed them off. It's soul destroying.
He's a lovely kid, no behavioural issues (apart from those of an opinionated 9 yr old) A mild medical condition that does not impact his school day.

So, lovely mumsnetters, please share your experiences and advice so I don't turn into a nutter instead of a netter!
bTW I am not teacher bashing here, I am one. (Not primary) Thanks!

^how abut giving her some credit above

Thank you for insulting me!
I felt sad that you find all the post a slag off.
I have nothing against you, just wished you'd understand, there's things you can do to change your DS's attitude, and why you think she hate him.

I don't think she hate him, just not happy with his attitude and luck of respect.

But that's ok. We can't be amicable. Your post didn't even make me angry.
Just made me feel even more sad, that actual teacher can be like this.

Not luck, lack. Yes I should go back to school. Yeah, I'm not English.

Laterthen.
How patronising you are.
But you make an interesting comment re your friends child simply being moved on.
I do not tolerate bold behaviour ( however slack some on this thread might assume my parenting skills are), but it seems to me that some teachers and the schools they work for are not willing to attempt to break behaviour.

Therefore should parents be doing their best to deal with it, clearly some schools are not. They simply banish pupils who do not come up to their standards.
It happens in the uk too.

And that is called failing a pupil.

And I have not been shouting at anyone. Nor will I be posting on living overseas. But thank you for the suggestion.

I also think that if this attitude continues to high school, where there is less pastural care, he will be in trouble and bored, you will have a DS who is bigger and stronger than you to deal with. If you find him frustrating at home, the teacher is saying the same? He has years left at school, he needs to tow the line.

"And I have not been shouting at anyone."
... really...

Well, that's me told.

Next time I actually feel sorry for some poor deluded mother of brat I'll not bother wasting my time trying to be constructive.

That's what I was saying Miaow - I wasn't looking for sympathy but trying to get across that no matter what as a parent you HAVE to be on school's side and reinforce the measures they put in place.

If you don't like something you do it to the deputy or head away from the child.

Following from my earlier question of whether you have recently moved to the pyp curriculum and abroad.

First of all I think we are jumping to conclusions here as to the fact that op's child is obviously one of those annoying obnoxious children etc etc…

It is not easy for a young child completely changing environment, country and school system. My dd was in yr 2 when we moved to an international school and really didn't have a clue what was going on for most of the first year, because the enquiry based method of teaching and learning, the constant rotating of activities left her really bemused.

It is not clear if you are in one of those international schools that follows the brit. curriculum, in which case ime they are much more academic and traditional in the way in which they deliver it, or if you are in a pyp school, which again in my experience seem to involve lots of research, questioning, independent learning which a child coming from a uk state school would need some time to adapt to.

Either way it is a period of adjustment for him, and it is possible that he is feeling insecure and unsure of himself, there may be other reasons he is not completing the work.
One of my pet hates as a teacher is the boys of this age that become a self-fulfilling prophecy, putting themselves in the role of 'whimsy kid' underachiever.

But when I was a teacher with no children/younger children working in an international school I was not very in tune with children of this age going through that kind of difficulty, though I like to think I would never have expressed dislike for a child in a parent meeting and actually never felt dislike for a child anyway!
However I might not have been as sympathetic or as proactive about such an issue as I might be now.

Written in haste as surrounded by chaotic playdate, hope some of this makes sense!

That was meant to be whimpy kid, not whimsy.

OP I think you've now removed any power from the teacher to help your son. I also think he will be aware of this. Chances are she might now stop bothering with him and let him fail himself.

The "take the work home if you haven't finished it" worked with my brother's friend. Spent 5 years not doing the work he was meant to because he was busy chatting.
Year 5 moved school to one where the policy was along the lines of "This is what we expect you to do this week, anything not done is done as homework at the weekend."

First weekend he had all but the entire week's work to do. Took him all weekend pretty much non-stop.
Second weekend he had a couple of hours to do.
After that he rarely brought anything home.

It didn't make him into a hard worker, but from then on, for the rest of school, he made sure he had his work done.

I don't think she wants any advice.
She only wants a sympathy post telling her how unlucky she is to have a horrible teacher who doesn't appreciate her son's lovely nature.

Wow, I'm becoming really horrible!!!
I just want to know, what's OP's reaction is, when one of the children in OP's class refuse to do the work.