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DS came out of school yesterday in a dirty nappy.

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Marioswife · 01/07/2015 13:24

I'm not sure if i should complain about it or not, they are normally good with changing him. I realise it's near the end of term and they are doing different more fun things like watching videos, so maybe the TA wasn't near him. I need a few opinions, do i treat this as a one off or do i make a complaint?

I've cross posted this in SN chat too as i know the two sections are very quiet but are both relevant.

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Piratejones · 01/07/2015 17:10

DS1 sometimes got caught out at the end of the day when he was in reception. A poo was the one thing he'd usually hold on to until he got home. In his case, he went through a phase of not allowing anyone to change him at school, which generally meant a squirmy walk home.

One of those "Hurry up and get home, hurry up and get home, No don't stop to look at the cars, I have to face that!" moments?

mrz · 01/07/2015 17:27

For the record we change children who don't have any identified SEN (next year there will be almost a quarter of the reception class in nappies unless something happens over the hols).
It would be regarded as a contravention of the Equalities Act 2010 to leave a child in a soiled nappy for any length of time pending the return of the parent is a form of abuse."

Achieving continence is usually a developmental milestone that is reached before a pupil enters a learning setting. However for some pupils this may not be the case and the reason for the delay may be unclear. It is therefore appropriate for schools to meet the needs of a pupil with delayed personal development in the same way as they would meet the individual needs of a pupil with a diagnosed disability. schools

Jaderuby · 01/07/2015 17:42

Why does he wear a nappy to school?

Because he still soils himself, it's in the thread title.

CoogerAndDark · 01/07/2015 17:43

I would raise it with the class teacher. The named TA should be aware and toile ting regularly so it doesn't happen again. It may just be that his routine has altered slightly, but that's why it's important regular opportunities to check are built into the day.

Jaderuby · 01/07/2015 17:48

I agree with everyone else, mention it, but don't make it a complaint.

Or maybe causally ask something like 2I noticed he was messy when he came out yesterday, do you have enough nappies / wipes?"

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Marioswife · 01/07/2015 18:13

I had a talk with the teacher when i picked him up, she assured me he was checked at 2 by her and was clean, which i believe. and everything seemed fine when they were getting their coats on.

I think it's just one of those one offs that can happen, i'm not too bothered as it's never happened before. But obviously sitting in poo isn't very nice so i had to bring it up with her.

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Jasonandyawegunorts · 01/07/2015 18:25

Good news then!

Piratejones · 01/07/2015 18:51

Great to hear that you've got reassurance that he's being checked regularly, especially in this heat.

Piratejones · 01/07/2015 18:59

I agree with everyone else, mention it, but don't make it a complaint.
Or maybe causally ask something like 2I noticed he was messy when he came out yesterday, do you have enough nappies / wipes?"

With us they used the communication book to tell us when they needed some more supplies, so this wouldn't work.

Jaderuby · 01/07/2015 19:59

That's great news Marios!

Jaderuby · 01/07/2015 20:02

Plus no teacher or other kids are going to put up with the smell as its unpleasant, plus children are honest if he was sitting next to them in they would have said something.

In my experience other children don't tend to care or notice pooey nappies. no idea what age the Op's son is, but 4 / 5 year olds tend to be oblivious.

CoogerAndDark · 01/07/2015 21:19

Glad you had a satisfactory chat with her and it was a one off.

So many mysterious Smells in a KS1 classroom, I very much doubt the others noticed or cared.

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Marioswife · 02/07/2015 02:42

So many mysterious Smells in a KS1 classroom, I very much doubt the others noticed or cared.

I hope so, i would hate to think my child was singled out.

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Jasonandyawegunorts · 02/07/2015 08:01

RedandYellow that last bit was a little nasty.

Piratejones · 02/07/2015 12:22

Don't worry marioswife, it's really unlikely other 5 year olds are going to notice the smell.

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Marioswife · 02/07/2015 12:46

Thank you for reassuring me, the last thing i want is for him to stand out any more than he already does. people telling me others will know he stinks and is unpleasant really doesn't help that.

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WixingMords · 02/07/2015 18:51

Marioswife there was a boy in my primary school who was in a nappy. The only reason I remember is because his mum used to come in to change him at set times a day, it used it cut into break time do he wasn't around to play for for a bit.

Nothing to do with smells at all.

Buttercup27 · 02/07/2015 18:57

Please don't worry about smelling, my classroom (mixed reception, y1) absolutely hons by the end of the day when it's roast dinner day! And none of the children have toileting issues.

LibrariesGaveUsPower · 02/07/2015 19:06

Glad you were reassured.

I am sure none of the children noticed or cared. Even if they noticed a smell, I honestly don't think at that age they connect it with the reason or an individual IYSWIM. However, since none of the adults about caught a whiff, I suspect it was right at the end of the day and certainly none of the children did.

There is a girl in DD's Y1 in nappies and they honestly don't notice or bat an eyelid. The most interest DD has displayed is asking why I don't wear gloves when changing her baby brother at home.

Piratejones · 05/07/2015 07:08

There is a girl in DD's Y1 in nappies and they honestly don't notice or bat an eyelid. The most interest DD has displayed is asking why I don't wear gloves when changing her baby brother at home.

awe.

Mario's i'm assuming you've had no more trouble since and the issue is sorted?

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Marioswife · 12/07/2015 19:02

No pirate no more issue, all seems to have been sorted.

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Piratejones · 15/07/2015 02:36

Great to hear. Hopefully that will carry over to next year.

Piratejones · 11/08/2015 19:41

Sorry to dig this up again, but Mario have you sorted out the health care plan for September yet? Our school informed me they can't use last years one and need to draw up a new one, you should make sure this isn't the same for your school or your DS will start without one.
I'm wondering if we will even need one as mini-pirate is doing so well at the moment.

BustyRino · 30/09/2015 11:07

have things been better this year OP?

Javabeansaintgeorge · 15/05/2016 21:24

We have had the same problem with my child coming out really wet, My child isn't very verbal compared to others his age his words are limited. the Ta should i think be checking his pads a lot more than they have and i have left messages in his book to let them know this however so far it doesn't seem to change things.

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