"That would, in my experience, be rare and lucky."
In general, the claim (which is supported by evidence from a number of schools) is that children for whom excellent phonics teaching doesn't work are those with very significant and profound special needs. No one is saying such children don't exist, only that if good phonics doesn't work, it is unlikely that anything else will.
"I have two older children that were in school in the UK post 2007, it worked well for one and not so well with the other."
But we are talking about good phonics teaching here, and it is well known that phonics is not taught well in many UK schools. So the tiny sample of one or two schools that your children happened to go to cannot tell us anything about what good phonics teaching can do.
"I'm not saying phonics is not a great way of teaching, but it must be used without downplaying the importance of context clues, meaning, illustration and basic memory, like the example I gave for read and read."
Context clues are fine for read and read, but there are very, very few words in the language that fit that criterion. The problem is with the much wider use of so-called context clues as taught by multi-cueing, whole language strategies. There has never been any evidence to show that this is a good way of teaching reading; it was based entirely on out of date and unsupported theorising from the 1970s.
"English is too complex to think that one approach trumps others or that any "research" is concrete."
Putting the word research in quotes doesn't make the actual, existing and extremely extensive research, or the scientific consensus about it, any less real. Have a look at this paper, which is a review of all the different strands of research that contribute to the current consensus, and was published by the APA in 2000. The evidence has only got stronger since then. www.pitt.edu/~perfetti/PDF/How%20psych%20sci%20informs%20teaching%20of%20reading-%20Rayner%