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Do you always report what happens at parents evening on social media?

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manchestermummy · 31/03/2015 20:52

Just had dd1's parents evening. She's doing really well at school: this is no stealth boast but an actual boast. She's Y2, and we are being given 'old' levels at the mo - she is working at a level 3c across the board.

I am really

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manchestermummy · 31/03/2015 20:55

Posted too soon...

I am really proud of her: clearly she's got lots of ability, but she works hard too and wants to learn.

I really want to shout about it on fb. But I don't because some of my friends' children aren't reaching the same sorts of levels. It wouldn't be right, I don't think.

So, would you always put something on fb?

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gaahhnonicknamesleft · 31/03/2015 20:56

No I never ever would

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manchestermummy · 31/03/2015 20:57

shedding I don't either. I might say I'm proud but screaming her levels out seems crass. Lots of others seem to though.

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base9 · 31/03/2015 20:57

Never.

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manchestermummy · 31/03/2015 20:58

To be clear: I am not about to! I know I have done exactly that here btw but you don't know me...

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carben · 31/03/2015 20:58

No - just be proud of her and tell her. No need to broadcast it to all and sundry. It's still true either way.

Smartiepants79 · 31/03/2015 20:59

We've only ever had 2, both positive but I didn't share it on facebook. The people who would be interested got told when we saw them.

Ionone · 31/03/2015 20:59

I would never ever do that. Honestly, if your child is a long way ahead, it's the equivalent of actually begging people to hate you. The only people you can tell are your child's grandparents.

Smartiepants79 · 31/03/2015 21:00

I certainly wouldn't post actual levels.
Maybe how pleased I was that it had been a positive parents evening.

Wadingthroughsoup · 31/03/2015 21:01

I don't put any comments about parents' eve on FB. Mainly because I don't think it's that interesting for people to read. (Basing this on how many statuses I have read along the lines of 'Very proud mummy after X's Parents' Eve!' etc) I definitely wouldn't post levels, because I have friends whose children really struggle at school and I think it might hurt them to read stuff like that.

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manchestermummy · 31/03/2015 21:04

Ionone my dm comes out with crap such as "is that all" and MIL thinks I am some dreadful tiger mum who ties her child to the desk. Dad left school at 14 (in 1944!) so is utterly baffled.

I also want to say publicly that her teacher is amazing, and has really, really stretched her and wants to help her reach her potential.

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manchestermummy · 31/03/2015 21:07

wading exactly. I have a friend whose dc has been seriously ill this year: this dc is having to relearn everything as a result.

One of my friends has specifically mentioned reading levels tonight. Thankfully they are not mutual friends!

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CrockedPot · 31/03/2015 21:08

No one else gives a shit, and it always rings hollow to me. Keep your praise for your dc and boast to their grandparents - they are the only ones who actually care how your dc are doing.

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howabout · 31/03/2015 21:09

FB not the place for this or praising the teacher. A hand written note to the teacher at the end of the year which she / he can keep or share as is helpful to their future career is something I have done though.

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manchestermummy · 31/03/2015 21:10

Not all the grandparents care... A whole other thread!

Frusso that absolutely would be.

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Redoubtable · 31/03/2015 21:10

Report Parents evening on FB...is this a thing?
God, I feel old.

No way never would disclose, to anyone. DC are encouraged to work hard to the best of their abilities. All are very academic. But I would not model boasting, nor encourage it in any way. Just tell them that I am proud and that we are lucky to live in country where quality education is mostly freely available to all.

I know that sounds preachy, but I am the same if DC achieve at their hobbies, or indeed when they don't do well. I praise the effort, not the result.
And study after study tells us that it is not the naturally gifted children who do well in the long term; it is the ones who learn how to work and how to bounce back from failure, whether or not they have innate talent.

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VivaLeBeaver · 31/03/2015 21:15

No.

Some mums in the village do this a lot. They are talked about in sneery tones by some of the other mums -a lot--. Some of the other mums have defriended the boasty mums as they're sick of it.

Hottypotty · 31/03/2015 21:17

Absolutely not-it's incredibly crass.
If you want to praise the teacher then tell them, or even better, write a quick email to the head to say how impressed you are which will hopefully get passed on give the teacher a big boost

Eigg · 31/03/2015 21:22

Praise your children privately. Write a note to the Head-teacher praising the teacher if you'd like.

There is a woman in my friends list who is perfectly pleasant in RL but drives me demented on FP, posting her DCs achievements in the crassest way, her DDs are always destined for Oxbridge, Hollywood, the Olympics (all in the same year I kid you not). The thing is, the achievements that she thinks are soooo amazing are good but not that outstanding.

It has the result that she is unknowingly embarrassing herself to those whose children have done better while simultaneously making those whose children have done worse feel terrible.

It's all just very unnecessary. Make a big fuss of your dd in private, she doesn't need you to take an advert.

RedCrayons · 31/03/2015 21:23

When my DCs have a good PE I tell them how proud I am of how hard they've worked. To their faces. Not via social media.
Being proud 'in public' especially with levels is just showing off.

I also tell my MIL because she asks me and she's actually interested.

No one else gives a monkeys.

cosytoaster · 31/03/2015 21:28

God no, no one else is that interested. I like to have a snigger at some of the unabashed boastfulness of other's though.

CorBlimeyTrousers · 31/03/2015 21:37

"It has the result that she is unknowingly embarrassing herself to those whose children have done better while simultaneously making those whose children have done worse feel terrible." - I wouldn't want to be this mum. I feel embarrassed for her from here.

I think it's just about acceptable to mention parents evening on Facebook and that you're pleased with your child (we didn't do this though - it didn't seem interesting enough to share) or you could mention their amazing teacher if you want to, that's nice and not going to do any harm (although a note to them and/or head better). But posting levels etc - no, it would just look like boasting. I'm guessing you wouldn't want to 'shout about it' if her levels weren't so good.

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