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Do you always report what happens at parents evening on social media?

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manchestermummy · 31/03/2015 20:52

Just had dd1's parents evening. She's doing really well at school: this is no stealth boast but an actual boast. She's Y2, and we are being given 'old' levels at the mo - she is working at a level 3c across the board.

I am really

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Itshouldntmatter · 31/03/2015 21:45

No. Because what you are proud about is possibly going to make someone else worry. The only boasting MN thread I like is the summer report one where people share non academic proudness. That thread always warms my heart. The posts I loathe most are where someone says my dc is y1 (say) and only reading level 1 - should I worry? And people post my dc is reading level 12 (e.g) but there are other children in the class on red. I HATE that because it is a pathetic boast which will make someone else feel (unnecessarily) crap. But I am digressing! OP i appreciate that isn't what you are doing.

TheRollingCrone · 31/03/2015 21:50

No just no. Honest you have every right to feel proud, but I just don't,t get the FB thing.

My dd is at similar levels, but tbh she's not all that. Hasn,t an once of horse sense and is quite frankly as daft as brush.

She looks like Danny Devito, but I think she,s the loveliest thing ever. She,s kind and gentle and has big empathy,But really apart from me, who gives a fuck.?

Although strangers have commented about the Denny Devito likeness bastards

TheRollingCrone · 31/03/2015 21:52

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meandjulio · 31/03/2015 22:00

I know one person who posts about parents' evening, but it's not too bad as she just says 'very proud of X after a great parents' evening' and she puts lots of other stuff on about her child that is much more intrusive and embarrassing

As ds gets older I am putting less and less about him on FB anyway, probably still more than I should, but NEVER about academic achievement. Stuff we have tried as a family, that's about it. So vague it makes you wonder why I post it on there. Which rapidly leads to me wondering why I am on there at all...

Kampeki · 31/03/2015 22:03

No, I never tell anyone about dc's levels except for her grandparents, who don't understand them anyway!

It's very crass to put them on FB!

iseenodust · 31/03/2015 22:04

DS is in yr6 and I have never posted anything on FB re school except world book day costume.

dixiechick1975 · 31/03/2015 22:09

Just back from parents evening and no I wouldn't. No friends do either.

Ubik1 · 31/03/2015 22:12

Tbh I don't think any of my Facebook pals give a toss how well my children are doing at school.
Any gushing update would be pointedly ignored.

meglet · 31/03/2015 22:16

never.

Hathall · 31/03/2015 22:20

No I wouldn't. Ds1 was doing really well last year and achieved well above expected levels. I could've boasted.
I would feel like a prat this yr when he's made no progress in one area and is now not so exceptional.

SilverBirch2015 · 31/03/2015 22:22

Only share if people ask, then be a little bit casual with it...no big deal. Be boastful and proud with DP or GPs is ok though!

Eigg · 31/03/2015 22:25

*CorBlimey it's painful. Thankfully my DCs don't go to the same school as hers, I would think she's the talk of the playground.

The thing is, she's a nice lady who is deeply impressed by her girls (which is lovely), but comes across poorly on FB.

Ludways · 31/03/2015 22:30

Never have, never will. I share very little and never anything so personal. Anyway, I don't think it's my right, the information belongs to my child iyswim

Wadingthroughsoup · 31/03/2015 22:30

Hathall Similar here- my DD was above expected levels in Y2, but has evened out a bit now in Y4. It's common, I think.

inflagrantedelicto · 31/03/2015 22:36

No, because I find it boring to read other peoples, and because we have what we call a shit sandwich, two positive ones... And then ds. This year the school admitted they've failed him, but it's hugely depressing to hear about what he's not done, achieved but should be capable of.

itsveryyou · 31/03/2015 22:39

When people do this it instantly says to me (rightl or wrongly) 'I'm living vicariously through my kids, I want to take personal credit for every single achievement they attain and I need other people to validate how good a parent I am'. Personally, I love and adore my kids, I will fight their corner and I will pull them up when they misbehave, I love praising them between ourselves and our family but not on social media? No.

nulgirl · 31/03/2015 22:47

The only time I would ever think about posting would be if it was something amusing rather than braggy. I have posted a couple of times in a way which could be construed as showing off to others which I cringe a bit about now - video of the first time my son rode his bike etc.

There is no way to post about positive feedback from parents evening which won't come across as showing off.

HmmAnOxfordComma · 31/03/2015 22:47

No, I wouldn't and don't.

A few people on my fb do do it (not actual levels, just "he's doing amazingly well" kind of thing) and tbh (without sounding too bitchy) it tends to be the kind of people who didn't do that well at school themselves and so I forgive them a bit more (I know that sounds patronising...)

soontobemumofthree · 31/03/2015 23:03

No I'd never mention parents evening or any child achievements on FB. We and rest of family can be proud but can't see any benefit from anyone else knowing.

Some people can read all the positive summaries of peoples lives on FB and it is hard not to make comparisons. I know you can do this without FB.

I think one of the most important things is to be able to fail at something and retry. The kind of pressure publicly or even just widely spreading achievements IMO would increase the pressure not to fail, when actually this is just part of learning.

Mandzi34 · 01/04/2015 06:41

I never put anything like that on fb. A cousin put how smart her son was for getting 40/40 on the phonics screening test, just plain sad and so arrogant. I don't need the reassurance of others to know that my children are doing well.

Contraryish · 01/04/2015 07:07

Like nulgirl, I have occasionally posted something amusing or quirky from parents' evenings or reports. But nothing boasty. I did have to sit on my hands after my last parents evening but ended up only telling my mother, who at least can share my pride rather than thinking I am up myself.

redskybynight · 01/04/2015 09:41

I always think posting levels says you are focussed on what they have achieved rather than how hard they have worked.

The result I am most proud of from parents evening is that my DS who struggles with writing is now just about scraping the expected level. Because I know the blood sweat and tears that have gone behind it. A bright child getting a good result? Not so amazing.

LL12 · 01/04/2015 11:25

I haven't and wouldn't. I also don't bother telling grandparents as although SATS levels wouldn't mean a thing to them, one set just change everything straight onto one of their other grandchildren if I say so much as "Little LL did a nice picture today".

They won't say "That's nice", just "Well other grandchild did such and such".
But as another poster said, that a whole other thread.

Comingoutofhibernation · 01/04/2015 13:45

I never do, because I would feel like a prat. I have never seen anyone post levels on FB, although there seem to be a lot of people saying they are very proud, and their child is doing well when reports come out. When I see other people doing it, I generally just think, "That's nice" and carry on scrolling.

AuntieUrsula · 01/04/2015 15:29

I'd actually be quite interested to see what levels my friends' kids were at on FB, but annoyingly they never post them.

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