does everyone except me get glowing reports at parents evening??

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DS is in reception. First parents evening in autumn term was quite bad as he was being badly behaved but he's settled down and now behaviour is better.

Latest parents evening still quite a lot of negative points on behaviour (not so bad as before), listening (or not) etc etc although as far as actual school work goes he's doing great and is well above average so why do I feel abit :( when I see all these posts on facebook saying what glowing reports their children got etc etc. My mum says people won't tell you the bad points so to take what others say with a pinch of salt

SirChenjin

But being a gobshite can be a very useful life skill. He'll probably do extremely well in life.

I know....I suspect he will - if he can keep his mouth zipped and come to realise that not everyone values his opinions as much as he does, that is.

Oh god Facebook! I avoid avoid avoid around parent evening time and school report time. It's excruciating.

My dd is in y5 and a great student, however we still have stuff that she could do better at or work on etc.

My ds is in y3. These days parent evenings aren't bad as he seems to have grown up a bit - but he's rather 'average' and I'm happy with that as at least he's happy When he was in Reception, y1 and y2 he often got into trouble and we were constantly told he wouldn't listen.

One parent who has dcs in both my children's years, actually wrote on FB last time that both teachers had actively sought her out so they could have extra time to tell her how wonderful her dcs were and what an mother she was and how she was doing such a job of bringing them up. Cue lots of comments "you're the best mum hun" "you're dcs are geniuses".

Words fail me. Don't believe the hype!

Sorry, I meant to insert 'amazing' and 'fantastic'.

OP, it’s helpful to realise that FB is just like Garrison Keillor’s Lake Wobegon where 'all the women are strong, all the men are good looking, and all the children are above average.'

Outside the parallel universe that is FB, do all DCs get glowing parents’ evening reports?

No!

I still remember DS’s Y2 parents’ evening from hell.

The teacher may have been thinking halfheartedly about the praise sandwich idea because she started by telling me that he had a 100% attendance record. While this was hardly news to me, it was positive-ish.

But after that opening comment things went downhill rapidly, descending through, ‘He doesn’t seem to think the same way as the rest of us,’ and culminating in, ‘There’s something not right with your DS, I don’t know what it is and I don’t know what to do about it!’

The only positive thing was the good attendance record and by the end of the consultation I felt that even that was a negative thing from her perspective.

I went home and sobbed!

DS now in yr 9 used to get glowing reports in primary. Top of the class and so on. Now in secondary it is a different story, last year we sat for 20 min of lecture from a science teacher of how he could do better but he is easily distracted and he is messing up his future. Yesterday I got a call from one of his teachers insisting to see us tonight at the parents evening as his behaviour is deteriorating. I am actually feeling a bit sick at the thought of parents evening tonight.

Dd 7 and in year 3 - I had three years (reception, yr 1 and yr 2) of parents evening wanting to say "you do not know my child", not because of academic abilities necessarily but it was clear they did not know my child. General comments of how she is fine but nothing individual. And the usual of "she can now do this and the other" when she was able to do those things months before.

Last night however at dds parents evening I felt for the first time that the teacher knows who she is talking about. She described her exactly how she is in real life and voiced exactly our opinion. Not positive necessarily just accurate. She is quiet and needs to be pushed and challenged otherwise she will happily do the easy work and go by unnoticed. So starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

With regards to FB I have friends boasting about how great their DCs are. I feel they are insecure and looking for praise themselves from the virtual world. Yes you are a great parent with a perfect family and the perfect child. But hey, who will post on FB "just came from parents evening and my child is struggling"? FB is a place to show off in my opinion.