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Girls must have their hair tied up

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nothappymummy2014 · 20/10/2014 18:41

Our daughter's school has now said all girls must wear their hair tied up. I think this is ridiculous and just wondered if this was a rule in other primary schools?

Our DD hates her hair being tied up and her hair is only just about shoulder length. Getting more and more fed up of parental and child choice being taken away over trivial matters.

OP posts:
vestandknickers · 20/10/2014 18:54

I should imagine her teachers will help her to adhere to school rules. There is a good reason for hair to be tied up and your DD just not wanting to is not good enough reason to ignore that rule.

LynetteScavo · 20/10/2014 18:54

One HT arrived at my DCs school and anounced all hair longer than collar length must be tied up. Cue lots of Y6 boys with bunches. Hmm Grin

He left pretty quickly as he wasn't actually any good at his job.

DD has a very short bob (shorter than collar length) because her ears really stick out. It annoys me when I'm told she has to have it tied up by silly mean gym teacher who roughly put elastic bands in her hair) . She has a bobble at the front...sufficient for an infant school PE lesson IMO.

Celebrating differences is all very well, unless it's your child.

LIZS · 20/10/2014 18:54

If she can pull it out you need to wrap the band an extra twist or put it in a plait. Loose hair is great for spreading headlice or getting caught.

CatKisser · 20/10/2014 18:55

Well I can guarantee it wouldn't last 5 minutes as my DD will pull it out as soon as she goes into school!
Perhaps you could tell her not to.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 20/10/2014 18:55

DS friend is a boy with long hair and he wears it tied back at school so it's applied gender equally!

ReallyTired · 20/10/2014 18:55

Kids hearing aids are fab. My son used to have doctor who hearing aids which were bright blue. It's possible to get ear moulds which are blue/ pink with glitter. My son had a number 4 hair cut with his hearing aids.

I think that tying back long hair is sensible for both sexes.

Hulababy · 20/10/2014 18:55

Actually - although not rule at my school on hair for normal class - long hair does have to be tied back for PE lessons. We also advise it for messy art sessions and always if they are cooking.

It really does make a lot of sense and it really does help to reduce the spread of headlice, which is rife in primary schools, especially among little girls.

The other alternative is to have shorter hair.

Hulababy · 20/10/2014 18:56

nothappymummy2014 Mon 20-Oct-14 18:52:14
Well I can guarantee it wouldn't last 5 minutes as my DD will pull it out as soon as she goes into school!

You may find that she will stop doing this when the teacher or TA keep helping her to tie it back up again, and all her friends with long hair have their hair tied back too.

I assume you will also be encouraging her to keep it tied up for school to, as those are the shcool rules.

titchy · 20/10/2014 18:56

I can guarantee OP that when you are dealing with your 4th, 5th, 6th bout of nits in as many weeks - in your hair too, her hair will remain tied up and you will be eating humble pie.....

Smartiepants79 · 20/10/2014 18:57

It's a rule at most schools.
It's to help stop them getting nits and to cut down on health and safety issues.
Small children can get their hair into all sorts of places. Paint, gravy, glue.
If my kids take their hair out I get them to put it back up pronto.
I wear mine up at shcool all the time.

micah · 20/10/2014 18:57

My dd has short hair- too short to tie up.

What would be the rule there?

Are boys with long hair allowed to wear it down?

I agree with pp that it should be irrelevant of sex and concerning the length of hair.

I'd be writing to the school asking them to clarify their position in sexism, and rewrite the rule to specify length, and remove reference to sex.

mummypig14 · 20/10/2014 18:57

I have sticky out ears and can't imagine being forced to tie my hair back!! I'd be so embaressed! maybe for long hair, but short hair is a bit unfair...

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 20/10/2014 18:58

What about two plaits OP? They would hang down around her ears and may hide her hearing aid a bit more, whilst still keeping the hair off her face.

nobutreally · 20/10/2014 19:02

Yay, I'd expect the rule to be non gendered (ds's surf-dude mate was always careful to keep his gorgeous curls the right side of the length rule Smile

How old is your dd, op? Is her dislike to tying back based on her hearing aid or the feeling of having hair tied back? All the kids hearing aids I've seen have been gorgeously covetable - I'd be more concerned there might be too much positive attention there!

ACheesePuff · 20/10/2014 19:03

Why will she pull it out? How old is she? Why can't she do as she is told?

Have it cut into a bob if you want to wear it down.

Momagain1 · 20/10/2014 19:04

Beenhacked: I was scrolling down to say the same thing. The hair just has to be controlled, doesnt have to be "up" or "back". Ponytails or braids at ear level should be acceptable.

And the poster who says she SEES NITS in students hair: surely you only see that once as you report it and they have to stay home until it is solved?!

noramum · 20/10/2014 19:04

Perfectly normal. Not only for nits, I must admit I never thought about it, I got nits while wearing a pony tail, but more about the mess and distraction.

DD wears her hair tied up at the weekend as well unless it is something special where she wears it styled different. It looks far too messy having over should length hair just flying around, especially if it is curly.

Hearing aids, I am pretty sure after the first wave of being curious about them the children won't say a thing. This happens when a child gets its first pair of glasses and the teachers are normally very quick to stamp out any teasing anyway.

NotCitrus · 20/10/2014 19:06

Kids seem pretty envious of other kids' funky hearing aids nowadays. Also if it's tied back then there won't be problems with hair over the microphones.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 20/10/2014 19:08

Nope cant exclude because of nits nowadays. Mental.

woolyflyer · 20/10/2014 19:09

My daughter wears cochlear implants ( even more obvious than hearing aids) as does my son. She pimps them to show them off when she's in the mood. Hair is always tied up for school, plaits give more coverage, for those days that subtly is desired. The kids at her school have always been interested but not unkind.

woolyflyer · 20/10/2014 19:10

The Facebook group pimp my ha/CI is fab for being out and proud

18yearstooold · 20/10/2014 19:10

Momagain

Children do not get sent home for having nits

Half of primary classes would be empty if that were the case

girliefriend · 20/10/2014 19:10

If she really doesn't want her hair tied up would she have it cut into a short bob?

My dd (also wears a hearing aid) at her request had a short, just below the ears, bob that was cut in at the nape of her neck. It looked lovely and really suited her. Would have been too short to tie back and headlice haven't been an issue.

MyOneandYoni · 20/10/2014 19:11

Please intro this at my kids' school; so many 5 and 6 year old girls seem to think that waist length hair is the in thing. It's revolting.

Picturesinthefirelight · 20/10/2014 19:13

Dd is secondary now & has to wear her hair in a bun!!!

At primary all long hair had to he tied back. Makes perfect sense for PE, science, art etc

If dd had been excluded for nits she would have been off school for months as despite daily treatment, combing, conditioner it took that long to get rid.